Julia Pitt, MA is a trained Personal Development Coach, certified NLP Practitioner, writer and public speaker. Qualifying through the Coaching Academy in London, England, Julia uses coaching methodology and tools to help her clients achieve their true potential, break through barriers to success and fulfillment and attain the goals they set for themselves. Dedicated to Bermuda's success and putting her passion into action, Julia writes her column in the Royal Gazette offering the fundamentals of coaching in weekly installments. Her hope is to provide an opportunity for readers to increase self-awareness and insight into human behaviour and by achieving individual goals, so collectively improve ourselves, our relationships, how we relate to our surroundings and ultimately, have a positive effect on the community. Julia also volunteers with the 'Coaching for Success' sidearm of the Mirrors Program, which brings coaching to Bermuda's youth.
Feb 12, 2014 8:00 am
It is the week of red cellophane-covered chocolate boxes, anonymous cards and anything else that can be emblazoned with hearts.
But why hearts? Yes, in ancient times, the heart was considered the epicentre of life. Aristotle, (4th century B.C) considered the human heart to be the seat of intelligence, motion and sensation. But science has long since proved that these are the functions of the brain.
We live and operate in a world...
Feb 4, 2014 8:00 am
I’m not naturally a person who sends back my soup.
There are some conversations I’d just rather avoid. I used to literally wither at the prospect of having to make a tough managerial call, or offer any feedback less than stellar, and I would rather die than deliver a ‘Dear John’ message: basically any exchange in which I thought someone’s feelings might be hurt.
I’d rather complain about the situation bitterly to everyone else...
Jan 21, 2014 8:00 am
Back one early December morning, I turn up at Horseshoe Bay for a run. It’s one of those beautiful days I can’t believe I’m the only person who gets to take advantage of. But I’m not quite alone today. There’s a silver-haired lady, I guess in her fifties, already doing laps near the waterline. As I’m setting myself up, taking inexorably long to arrange water bottle and keys in some last ditch procrastination, I notice just how fast this...
Jan 14, 2014 8:00 am
How do you feel? Not just right now, but generally: okay, fine, grumpy, bored, frustrated, stressed, anxious, depressed? Or is the majority of your time spent feeling great, content, happy, joyful?
How we feel colours what and how we see everything around us. Our emotions determine our outlook and how we respond to our world. We could have all the success, love, money and fame we could imagine, but if we feel sad and lonely, we wouldn’t...
Jan 7, 2014 8:00 am
I’ve just returned from two weeks in the UK, pootling around the countryside. There was the usual awkward scene at the car rental place. A last minute booking for the busiest part of the holiday, I was given one of those adorable, ‘bijoux’ European three-door models that I had to fold myself up to get into, with a manual transmission, of course.
I know how to drive stick shift … technically. It says so on my license. I have done it on...
Dec 31, 2013 8:00 am
I’ve a friend who tells me, whenever I express doubts about getting my column in on time, that I should just recycle the old articles I’ve written. “Pull out the Greatest Hits” he says, “like the Eagles did”. It turns out that The Eagles ‘Their Greatest Hits 1971-1975’ was the best-selling album in the 20th Century.
Although I personally see it as a challenge to find something new to share each week, revisiting former topics is...
Dec 24, 2013 8:00 am
Steps to Success
Who hasn’t found themselves faced with a tricky question: just unwrapped an awful gift from Great-Aunt So-and-So: “Don’t you love it my dear?”
A hungover colleague, “how was my karaoke at the Christmas party last night?” Or the BFF in her new outfit, “does my bum look big in this?”
Little white lies, what’s the harm really? They only bend the truth a bit, usually about things we don’t consider that...
Dec 17, 2013 8:00 am
The countdown is on and the Island is buzzing with frenzied shoppers trying to find the perfect gift (or one that will do), get in the Turkey and trimmings, put together just the right party outfit and get work tied up in time for the holidays …
It’s a fast paced world at the best of times. ‘Busy’ barely begins to describe most of our lives, juggling jobs, family, friends, hobbies, socialising, finances … the list goes on. Multi-tasking...
Dec 10, 2013 8:00 am
By Julia Pitt Steps to Success: Unsung Heroes
One of life’s daily pleasures is walking my dog in the Botanical Gardens each morning. Even those times I feel reluctant or the weather isn’t conducive, by the end of a loop or two, I feel brighter, invigorated and balanced. It’s a fabulous way to start the day. Twenty minutes on a treadmill doesn’t quite compare. There is something restorative about being surrounded by that natural beauty,...
Nov 26, 2013 8:00 am
I recently had an interaction that took me right back to high-school. Not discussing mixed tapes and bubble writing, but under attack from an internal voice, like a horse racing commentator, giving me a play by play critique of everything I was saying, doing and appearing wrong, and what a doofus I was making of myself.
I know better. I’ve worked on this for twenty years, but every now and then it still gets the better of me. A rabbit...
Nov 19, 2013 8:00 am
Steps to Success
Question: What do you call the Med Student that graduates at the bottom of the class?
Sorting through some papers on my perpetually untidy desk recently, I unearthed something written almost a year ago. It was my list of aims and intentions for 2013. It seems that time has flown extraordinarily quickly since penning it and I can hardly believe it is almost time to repeat the exercise for next...
Oct 16, 2013 8:00 am
I’m often asked where I get my ideas of what to write about each week … They just seem to present themselves. There will be a recurring thought or subject that keeps cropping up, among various clients, and in my own life and even things I read or catch on television will have some relevance. It’s all very synchronistic, almost like magic.
Sep 24, 2013 8:00 am
Fed up with living in a dark cave, I finally decided to exercise my biceps and unroll all the hurricane shutters that have been down since Gabrielle’s visit and the ‘will he or won’t he’ of Humberto. I had long since crossed that line from precaution to laziness yet as I moaned about the effort I realized, that wet week had been a good dry run for any future blows headed our way this season.
Sep 17, 2013 8:00 am
Have you ever gotten stuck behind one of those classic ole-time Bermudians on the roads. Identifiable as they are driving a car as old as me, that looks in better shape, and they are pootling along at a couple of miles below the speed limit — the actual speed limit.
Jul 16, 2013 8:00 am
Steps to Success
Back from my week of sharpening the saw and survived surprisingly well without phone, internet or virtually any technology beyond a tea kettle and a magic machine that projects stars onto the ceiling (dont ask!).
Jul 2, 2013 8:00 am
Steps to success
Are you familiar with this story about the woodcutter, trying to cut down a tree?
Hes sawing away, sweat pouring off him.
An onlooker asks, What are you doing?
Cant you see, Im sawing down this tree, he replies.
You look exhausted, says the bystander.
Ive been at it for hours, complains the woodcutter, still sawing away.
Jun 25, 2013 8:00 am
Anyone who knows me will be aware of my love/hate relationship with running - one thing that challenges all my motivational skills. Saying that, it may surprise you, almost as much as it did me, to find that I recently signed up for a running race: the You Go Girl charity relay in aid of the Womens Resource Centre. Its a great cause and as participant number 3, I would only have to run the last 2km, with two teammates...
Jun 18, 2013 8:00 am
Making the leaders of tomorrow!
Slogans like this are often bandied by schools, clubs, activities, camps etc and as a parent, it certainly sounds appealing. But Im curious what that actually entails?
Looking back, Im sure my parents signed me up for things claiming the same, but I dont recall much discussion of what leadership is or how to do it.
Jun 11, 2013 8:00 am
I was having a lovely lunch with a friend the other day. She waved enthusiastically at a gent on another table. Theyd been introduced at an exhibition a few years ago and had got talking. Not long after, at a sporting event with a friend from her Book Club, shed run into him again. She made introductions and they got talking. They discovered that he had a product to sell and she had a retail space available — a new...
May 28, 2013 1:06 pm
I am still reveling in my enjoyment of this past weekend. The Bermuda Day Parade was a treat for the senses and I tip my hat to all those whose effort and passion made it such a marvelous spectacle. This includes the spectators. I felt decidedly underdressed and had to stop a few people just to tell them how fabulous they looked in their outfits.
May 14, 2013 8:00 am
How do we speak so that someone hears us? And I don't just mean how loudly.
I'm referring to the ability to connect with others, and truly communicate our message.
I have previously written about ways to enhance rapport and tune-in to another person's world.
But once you're there, if you're speaking Danish and the other person's speaking Japanese, you may not recognise what each other are saying.
May 7, 2013 8:00 am
Steps to Success: The Value of Appreciation
Being a mum can be a pretty thankless job. Rewarding beyond measure, but one rarely hears a thank you for the years of wearing baby sick, the sleepless nights and the grey hair from a lifetime of concern for our childrens safety and well-being. And even with my best efforts, my son will probably do what I did: grow up and blame all his shortcomings on his parents!
Apr 30, 2013 8:00 am
Last week I suggested that one way to turn disappointment into a learning opportunity is to ask for feedback. I suspect, however, the prospect of doing so makes many a toe curl, for both the person asking and the one having to give it.
Apr 23, 2013 8:00 am
Steps to Success
Apr 16, 2013 8:00 am
It was so embarrassing! a friend confided. She had a hard time fighting back her tears at the launch event for a project shed been working on for several years. Other people shuffled and looked away awkwardly. Afterwards they said they understood she must have been sad to say goodbye to it. But she told me she wasnt sad nostalgic perhaps, but more relieved. Shes since returned to her work with renewed vigour,...
Apr 2, 2013 8:00 am
I write this from the UK where I face the daunting task of emptying a storage unit full of possessions leftover from my former life here before I moved back to Bermuda. Just get rid of the lot, was the advice from friends, which makes sense as I already have everything I need at home. But it does not feel that simple. The truth is, Im a bit of a hoarder. Not enough to make a TV show about, but I tend to cling to things. So in...
Mar 19, 2013 8:00 am
Spot the difference:
1. Are you having a good day so far?
2. Tell me, whats gone well in your day so far?
In both I am asking about your day, but which is going to garner the greatest response?
Questions are at the core of my job as a coach: to ask the best question to help the client draw out their options, their truths and choose their best way forward.
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