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Julia Pitt

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Julia Pitt, MA is a trained Personal Development Coach, certified NLP Practitioner, writer and public speaker. Qualifying through the Coaching Academy in London, England, Julia uses coaching methodology and tools to help her clients achieve their true potential, break through barriers to success and fulfillment and attain the goals they set for themselves. Dedicated to Bermuda's success and putting her passion into action, Julia writes her column in the Royal Gazette offering the fundamentals of coaching in weekly installments. Her hope is to provide an opportunity for readers to increase self-awareness and insight into human behaviour and by achieving individual goals, so collectively improve ourselves, our relationships, how we relate to our surroundings and ultimately, have a positive effect on the community. Julia also volunteers with the 'Coaching for Success' sidearm of the Mirrors Program, which brings coaching to Bermuda's youth.

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  • Master the art of Christmas chopping
    Nov 30, 2016 8:00 am

    Master the art of Christmas chopping

    Off with their heads!” This is how we can end up feeling towards everyone and everything when we’re stressed up to our necks in all the end-of-year preparations. Not very festive, I dare say.

    And while December is yet to begin, the frenzy...

  • Communication traffic jams
    Nov 16, 2016 8:00 am

    Communication traffic jams

    Is it my imagination, or has traffic been particularly terrible as of late?

    I don’t just mean the number of cars on the road, no doubt swelled by the recent string of cold, wet mornings, I’m referring to the awful driving I’ve witnessed:...

  • The winds of change
    Nov 9, 2016 8:00 am

    The winds of change

    Leaves, weather and now clocks changing: a luxurious extra hour in bed — as long as your kids can tell time!

    It’s the season for it. I’ve got friends transitioning jobs, others getting married, some starting new projects. It seems the hot,...

  •  In search of a happy finish
    Nov 2, 2016 8:00 am

    In search of a happy finish

    It had survived the hurricane but no one suspected a power flicker the following week would have been a problem. Nobody checked and it wasn’t until she got back from vacation, opened the door and the smell hit her did anyone realise my mum’s...

  • Live your values
    Oct 26, 2016 8:00 am

    Live your values

    Down at the airport on Saturday night, my mother had just flown in on the BA flight.

    We piled all the suitcases in the car, turned the key to drive home and … nothing.

    Not even an attempt by my car to start.

    We looked around...

  • Tales from a weekend time machine
    Oct 12, 2016 8:00 am

    Tales from a weekend time machine

    Julia Pitt

    Big hair, boyfriends who look like they’re in rock bands, Saturday nights out dancing with no curfew — this is how I imagined my grown-up life as a starry-eyed ten-year-old.

    At the time I was watching Desperately...

  • Remember, perfection sadly isn’t even possible
    Oct 5, 2016 8:00 am

    Remember, perfection sadly isn’t even possible

    Last week I was part of an improv show that almost didn’t happen because we got caught up in overthinking and fear of getting it wrong. (Sometimes it pays to listen to our own advice: like last Wednesday’s article on the value in fearlessness of...

  • Holding on to our creative freedom
    Sep 28, 2016 8:00 am

    Holding on to our creative freedom

    “How was art?” My eight-year-old’s favourite subject. “OK,” came the response, sounding less than OK. “We were learning to draw faces. We had to do them correctly.”

    Sounds great to me. Why wouldn’t he be happy about getting it right?...

  • The love that is in listening
    Sep 21, 2016 8:00 am

    The love that is in listening

    “It’s taken me 11 years to teach my husband to listen to me without trying to fix everything,” came one comment in response to last week’s post.

    “I finally said, ‘just LISTEN! Don’t do anything. I just need to feel understood.

  • Why fixing it isn’t always the answer
    Sep 14, 2016 8:00 am

    Why fixing it isn’t always the answer

    I’m a talker. I like to talk things through. Sometimes I can only get clarity on what I’m thinking by first verbalising it to see if it sounds right to me and makes sense. As a talker, I therefore truly appreciate a good listener.

    Despite...

  • It’s time to get back to the books
    Sep 7, 2016 8:00 am

    It’s time to get back to the books

    The first day of school … and all the preparation in the world hasn’t managed to ready our household for the accompanying chaos of trying to get out the door, fed, with all the necessary named items, in the correct uniform, washed and brushed to...

  • Repeating the same old mistakes
    Aug 31, 2016 8:00 am

    Repeating the same old mistakes

    Life is full of lessons. There is something to learn from all of life’s ups and downs.

    We often have to take a step back or put a little distance between us and events to recognise the lesson; to notice where we have grown or to see the...

  • Couldn’t we all use more fun at work?
    Aug 24, 2016 8:00 am

    Couldn’t we all use more fun at work?

    It’s always interesting getting to know what I didn’t know that I didn’t know. The conference I was raving about last week was organised by the Applied Improvisation Network.

    What is applied improvisation? I wasn’t sure myself when I...

  • Feeding your mind is essential for beating boredom
    Aug 17, 2016 8:00 am

    Feeding your mind is essential for beating boredom

    “You are what we eat, from your head down to your feet.”

    So sang the public service announcement during the ABC after-school specials I used to love watching as a kid.

    This week, I’ve been reconfirming my theory...

  • Where is our purpose and how do we find it?
    Aug 10, 2016 8:00 am

    Where is our purpose and how do we find it?

    Organisations often have mission statements declaring their reason for existing, what they stand for and the overall goals that guide their strategies and actions.

    Sounds like something we could all do with, right?

    What is your...

  • Dustbusting our carpet ghosts
    Aug 3, 2016 8:00 am

    Dustbusting our carpet ghosts

    A client was asked recently.: “Why are you going to see a life coach?” They told me their response was: “Because there’s no more room under the carpet!”

    We all know that carpet. It’s where we sweep those thoughts and feelings we don’t want...

  • Take a deep breath, go with Cup Match flow
    Jul 27, 2016 8:00 am

    Take a deep breath, go with Cup Match flow

    I find there’s nothing like travel to test your mettle and flexibility. Trips and holidays can be wonderfully relaxing but the getting there and back can undo all their benefits with a single word: delayed, cancelled, full, lost, sorry … We can...

  • Making sense of the tragedy
    Jul 20, 2016 8:00 am

    Making sense of the tragedy

    I rarely watch the news. I skim the periphery of current events because I find the details and images too disturbing.

    They leave me grappling with how to stay positive in a world seemingly filled with grief and aggression. So why CNN was...

  • Follow Madonna’s advice and take a holiday
    Jul 13, 2016 8:00 am

    Follow Madonna’s advice and take a holiday

    Holiday!” The words of Madonna’s 1983 classic keep running through my head.

    I write this from the Azores on a deck chair looking back across the Atlantic, a belly full of lapas and fresh cheese, surrounded by post-Euro victory buzz. A week...

  • Don’t put off living until you retire
    Jul 6, 2016 8:00 am

    Don’t put off living until you retire

    School’s out for summer! Do you remember that feeling of having, what seemed like, endless weeks of vacation stretching out ahead?

    Even with a summer job it felt so good just not to be in school. Can anything match that sense of...

  • Remember to make every day count
    Jun 29, 2016 8:00 am

    Remember to make every day count

    Depending on how you view your glass, you may consider that it’s half over or that half is yet to come. Either way, tomorrow marks the midway point of 2016. Six months since last New Year’s Eve, six months until the next one. Somehow I find both...

  • Learning not to be a loser
    Jun 22, 2016 8:00 am

    Learning not to be a loser

    “Shame you’re not the best columnist in Bermuda …” someone informed me recently.

    That stung. I didn’t know what they were talking about. It hadn’t occurred to me I was in competition for the Best of Bermuda awards. I love Catherine Burns’s...

  • Profound impact of a father’s legacy
    Jun 15, 2016 8:00 am

    Profound impact of a father’s legacy

    This Father’s Day will be 21 years since my dad’s death. I’ve now lived longer without him than I did with. Every day, I wake up grateful for what he worked so hard to provide for me: a good education, financial security and back-up. I know I’m...

  • Why we can’t always get what we want
    Jun 8, 2016 8:00 am

    Why we can’t always get what we want

    Subtly and signals rarely work. Once, flashing a boyfriend my sexiest, come hither smile, he responded with, “What’s wrong, you look alarmed?”

    Neither are hints the way to go. I’ve often tried to hint my way out of some uncomfortable...

  • Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want
    Jun 1, 2016 8:00 am

    Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want

    Have you seen the movie When Harry Met Sally? I’m an “on-the-side” girl, too: a high-maintenance orderer, usually requesting something special from a menu to get it just the way I want it.

    Yet, as happy as I am...

  • Steps to Success: Going For goal
    May 25, 2016 8:00 am

    Steps to Success: Going For goal

    Catching a radio interview last week, I heard one of Bermuda’s star, young athletes discussing the fraction of a second needed and how she expects, in her very next meet, to qualify for the Olympics!

    There was so much hope and determination...

  • Criticism: bitter pill or learning tool?
    May 11, 2016 8:00 am

    Criticism: bitter pill or learning tool?

    Last week I received some feedback. Timely for this past weekend, it was about the way I speak to my son.

    I find there are few things more emotive than commenting on people’s parenting. It’s a subject loaded with feelings, fears;...

  • Motherhood: a thankless yet fulfilling job
    May 4, 2016 8:00 am

    Motherhood: a thankless yet fulfilling job

    Flying kites on Good Friday, I received a lovely compliment: “I always enjoy your column,” I was told. “Particularly the most recent. What was the title again?”

    I was drawing a blank. My mother chimed in: “This week’s was spontaneity, last...

  • Are manners too often overstated?
    Apr 27, 2016 8:00 am

    Are manners too often overstated?

    Elbows off the table. Mouth closed when you’re chewing, please. Your fork is not a shovel. What’s the magic word? Elbows OFF the table!’

    The soundtrack to many mealtimes with my eight-year-old: an endless, nagging stream of dos and don’ts.

  • Giving thanks for ‘everyday angels’
    Apr 20, 2016 8:00 am

    Giving thanks for ‘everyday angels’

    Recently, someone helped a friend of mine. I was away and she was in a fix — not an emergency, just one of those situations where you could use an extra set of eyes and an alternate perspective.

    The helper wasn’t a relation or even a close...

  • Change of seasons can bring change of ways
    Apr 13, 2016 8:00 am

    Change of seasons can bring change of ways

    I’m always surprised how, after a week in a manual rental car, stalling, grinding and only realising ten minutes down the motorway I’m still in third, that I come home to find my foot reaching for the clutch at every intersection and putting the...

  • Catch up with an old friend
    Apr 6, 2016 8:00 am

    Catch up with an old friend

    Alone is how I spent this past week, holed up in an English countryside cottage. My son is off with his dad having a great time and I am by myself — having a great time.

    Such an extreme change of pace, demand and noise level; a chance to...

  • Helpful habit of spontaneity
    Mar 23, 2016 8:00 am

    Helpful habit of spontaneity

    Are you spontaneous?” I got asked this weekend. My “yes” came without hesitation.

    “Tell me something spontaneous you’ve done lately.”

    “I…um…lately?”

    I could name a hundred spontaneous things I’d done ­­— ten years ago. But not...

  • Focus on your Oscar-winning moments
    Mar 16, 2016 8:00 am

    Focus on your Oscar-winning moments

    It has never been quite the same since we lost Joan Rivers but what I still enjoy most about the Oscars is scrolling through the red carpet dresses in the days that follow.

    This week’s offering has little to do with fashion, though. I want...

  • Time to grab the bull by the horns
    Mar 9, 2016 8:00 am

    Time to grab the bull by the horns

    March is proving to be a full month for me. I’ve decided to undertake two big projects, each with the potential to monumentally impact my life as I know it.

    They are projects I’ve been putting off for about a year or two ... but there are...

  • Is it time for a refit internally?
    Mar 2, 2016 8:00 am

    Is it time for a refit internally?

    I write this amid the dulcet tones of juddering jackhammers and breaking tile. One of those unexpected gifts of homeowning, suddenly discovering you need to re-plumb a bathroom because the old metal pipes have rusted closed. No wonder the sink...

  • School project inspires reflection
    Feb 24, 2016 8:00 am

    School project inspires reflection

    This week my eight-year-old had an assignment for school. As part of his All About Me project he had to create a display of things relevant to him — what’s important and how he’d like to represent himself to the class.

    This project was not...

  • Life lessons ... from a panda
    Feb 17, 2016 8:00 am

    Life lessons ... from a panda

    I know Kung Fu. But imagine it less Keanu Reeves in The Matrix and more … Jack Black in Kung Fu Panda 3!

    One can learn a lot from movies. I’ve watched enough to know. I was a film major in college and...

  • Do not resist the journey of change
    Feb 10, 2016 8:00 am

    Do not resist the journey of change

    While facilitating a workshop last year on managing change, I ventured that change, despite how drastic it might feel at the time, always delivers positives if we choose to see them.

    It was an idea met with resistance. Not all change, they...

  • What is the answer to making love work?
    Feb 3, 2016 8:00 am

    What is the answer to making love work?

    I appreciate the apparent irony in me, a divorced singleton, facilitating a workshop helping couples stay connected for lasting love.

    But it is only really since the bitter end of my disastrous marriage, and perhaps because of it, that I...

  • Five foul plays when striving for change
    Jan 27, 2016 8:00 am

    Five foul plays when striving for change

    For the past month I’ve been recounting the trials and tribulations in my project to massively reorganise my life. An exercise in humility, but my hope in airing my failings is to identify pitfalls so others might avoid them. Here are my biggest...

  • Steps to success: my own duck dynasty
    Jan 20, 2016 8:00 am

    Steps to success: my own duck dynasty

    There is nothing like a bit of accountability. A couple of concerned readers approached me this week to ask how my “duck project” is going and if I’m managing to stick to my strict schedule and get it all done.

    Such is the hazard of...

  • Going quackers – on week two
    Jan 13, 2016 8:00 am

    Going quackers – on week two

    Last week I unveiled my plan, experiment really, to create more time by automating certain life processes and going against my nature to get organised.

    Operation Wardrobe Wizard was interesting. Spending 1.5 hours picking clothes once a...

  • Freeing up more precious time and energy
    Jan 6, 2016 8:00 am

    Freeing up more precious time and energy

    I have a friend who swears by his revolving wardrobe. Not a fancy closet that spins around, a simple set of trousers and shirts that all co-ordinate and get paired up when they reach the front of the rack, then get washed, pressed and returned to...

  • New year — good time for a new mindset
    Dec 30, 2015 8:00 am

    New year — good time for a new mindset

    Paris. I love it, particularly around this time of year. Even recovering from recent tragedies, the city sparkles: the ornate buildings beautifully lit and festively decorated, the shop windows brimming with delectables of fine design and...

  • Like Scrooge, learn to bring joy to world
    Dec 23, 2015 8:00 am

    Like Scrooge, learn to bring joy to world

    It seems appropriate that I write this on a bleak, grey winter’s day in London. I’ve just finished reading Charles Dickens’s A Christmas Carol. I’m reluctant to admit I’d never read any Dickens before. With so many movie versions, who needs to?...

  • Make way for Santa!
    Dec 16, 2015 8:00 am

    Make way for Santa!

    In our household, it’s Christmas wish list time. Letters to the North Pole have been posted. I won’t even comment on my son’s (arm-length) checklist save to say that a real-life elf and the latest Apple product are just two of the many items.

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