Julia Pitt, MA is a trained Personal Development Coach, certified NLP Practitioner, writer and public speaker. Qualifying through the Coaching Academy in London, England, Julia uses coaching methodology and tools to help her clients achieve their true potential, break through barriers to success and fulfillment and attain the goals they set for themselves. Dedicated to Bermuda's success and putting her passion into action, Julia writes her column in the Royal Gazette offering the fundamentals of coaching in weekly installments. Her hope is to provide an opportunity for readers to increase self-awareness and insight into human behaviour and by achieving individual goals, so collectively improve ourselves, our relationships, how we relate to our surroundings and ultimately, have a positive effect on the community. Julia also volunteers with the 'Coaching for Success' sidearm of the Mirrors Program, which brings coaching to Bermuda's youth.
Oct 21, 2014 8:00 am
My mother once had this dream about me. I was playing in a concert at City Hall. Looking at the programme she saw that all the other performers had lots of credentials and accolades after their names, PhD, CPA, LLD, MBE and so on. She was worried for me, then looking down at mine she saw, of anyone, I had the longest list of letters after my name by far. After the show she asked me what all the accomplishments were, and I replied that I had...
Oct 14, 2014 8:00 am
Snow day! Well, the closest thing children here ever get to one. Sunday was spent sheltering from the wind, not thinking about the two smashed shutters ripped off in the night, and ignoring the disaster of a garden. There was no internet to check e-mails, all commitments were cancelled, and no electricity to even write this column. What a lovely excuse to be lazy.
Not that I really need an excuse. Lazy is something I seem to do well …...
Oct 7, 2014 8:00 am
Sometimes I can be a real killjoy. I notice it especially with the kids. Children can get so enthusiastic about things, literally buzzing in their little socks with excitement, often over the pretty mundane. Ebullient over the ordinary, what a wonderful way to be.
Yet too often I find myself meeting their high energy with a sigh, a skeptical look, a dismissive, knowing nod like ‘I’ve done it, been there, seen it all before’. Usually...
Sep 30, 2014 8:00 am
“I read your articles,” a friend tells me, “well, skim them really. There’s a lot of analysis going on.” Pause. “You come across as someone who’s got … a lot of time on their hands for…”
“Navel gazing?” I suggest.
“Considering the minutia, was how I would have put it,” he clarified.
Every Tuesday I set about the task of exploring something that has come up for me that week: a life lesson, a story that has moved me, an idea...
Sep 23, 2014 8:00 am
This week’s life lesson came like a slap in the face.
I lost my cool. So dramatically in fact, it was Oscar-worthy. The wheels fell off, springs boinged out, my head spun round as steam issued from my ears. I ran the full gamut of cool-losing — from offensive ogre to petulant child mid-tantrum.
All, ironically, in the name of showing my six-year-old child ‘how to do things properly’.
Homework: I never particularly liked it...
Sep 2, 2014 8:00 am
I’m a little late sitting down to write this week. I’ve been goofing-off. Very conscious of the dwindling days of the holidays, counting down to this very morning, I realised that opportunities for ‘quality time’ free from school-associated stresses, were limited.
Too often I opt for, “No, mummy’s busy. I’ve got to do my work.” This morning however, feeling guilty, I didn’t disappear off to the quiet and safety of my office, but...
Aug 26, 2014 8:00 am
I believe in magic. Sounds a little woo-woo but I’ve noticed that sometimes, if we wish for something hard enough, it can become our reality. ‘Wish’ perhaps isn’t the right word. It’s more setting an intention, having a deep-seated desire and a belief that it is possible for us. I’m convinced we can manifest things into our lives.
‘We get more of what we focus on,’ I’m so often reminded of this. Not just in the day to day, this seems...
Aug 19, 2014 8:00 am
Oh the irony. I spend the last few weeks writing about happiness and publicly sharing my discovering of what it means to me. Yet any ‘understanding’ I seemed to have gained about it, hasn’t stopped me being in a wretchedly foul mood these past few days, feeling anything but. I won’t go into details, only because the reasons seem so petty now, making it all the more frustrating and embarrassing. Like a petulant toddler, I have been feeling...
Aug 12, 2014 8:00 am
Walking through a remote, Devon country pub last week, I glance up and notice that nailed above the door, almost missable, there is a painted wooden board that reads: “Happiness is not a destination, it is a way of life”.
I do love it when the universe converges to reflect exactly what’s on my mind, or I’m presented with just what I need to know at that given moment.
I have been basking in a happiness bubble as of late. On my...
Aug 5, 2014 8:00 am
I am turning into my mother.
As a child, my toes would curl and I’d want to shrink into the upholstery whenever she’d strike up conversations and start swapping life histories with total strangers: fellow airline passengers, shop assistants, waiters …
Now I find myself doing the same. It seems the world is full of interesting people, all with stories to tell. And they’re only a stranger until you’ve met them.
Jul 29, 2014 8:00 am
I love that Rodeo Drive shopping scene in the movie Pretty Woman.
Laden with bags, Julia Roberts turns to the snooty sales assistant who previously wouldn’t help her, “Big mistake. Big. Huge … I have to go shopping now.”
I’ve had my own experiences like that lately. Not the spending of obscene amounts of money, but having been really shocked by some examples of appalling customer service.
I am in the throes of updating a...
Jul 15, 2014 8:00 am
So that’s the World Cup over for another four years. I didn’t watch the final. I can’t bear to watch sports, mainly because I don’t like the fact that one team has to lose.
I am adamant that I am not a competitive person, but … this is not entirely the truth.
A couple of Christmases ago, there was, well, let’s just call it, ‘The Scrabble Incident’. It wasn’t pretty. Two grown adults reduced to squabbling schoolchildren. Just...
Jun 3, 2014 8:00 am
With just three weeks to go until the deadline, a good pal and I are in the throes of writing a short play together to submit to the BMDS, ‘Famous for Fifteen’ playwriting competition. Always up for a fun creative challenge, and as with everything, this too has proven to be a learning opportunity.
Years ago, a creative writing teacher gave me a piece of advice: ‘be specific — good writing is in the details’. An author can write: ‘he...
May 6, 2014 8:00 am
Driving the other day I pulled into a line of slow moving traffic. Wondering what the hold up was, it wasn’t until we turned a corner that I saw, six cars ahead, two people wobbling away on their red-plated scooter. As they wavered and swayed, their blinker on continual tick, I got the sense that everyone was doing their best to support them. Nobody tried to squeeze by and overtake, were riding on their bumper, or honking. I got the distinct...
Apr 22, 2014 8:00 am
I hope everyone enjoyed their long weekend. Personally I could not have asked for a nicer time. Making memories with family, hanging out with friends, kite up on the first pitch … chocolate — all made for a very happy bunny.
And the weather was gorgeous. That late March cold snap quickly receded into forgotten history … spring is definitely here.
Springtime: leaves budding, flowers bursting into bloom, little lambs frolicking...
Feb 12, 2014 8:00 am
It is the week of red cellophane-covered chocolate boxes, anonymous cards and anything else that can be emblazoned with hearts.
But why hearts? Yes, in ancient times, the heart was considered the epicentre of life. Aristotle, (4th century B.C) considered the human heart to be the seat of intelligence, motion and sensation. But science has long since proved that these are the functions of the brain.
We live and operate in a world...
Feb 4, 2014 8:00 am
I’m not naturally a person who sends back my soup.
There are some conversations I’d just rather avoid. I used to literally wither at the prospect of having to make a tough managerial call, or offer any feedback less than stellar, and I would rather die than deliver a ‘Dear John’ message: basically any exchange in which I thought someone’s feelings might be hurt.
I’d rather complain about the situation bitterly to everyone else...
Jan 21, 2014 8:00 am
Back one early December morning, I turn up at Horseshoe Bay for a run. It’s one of those beautiful days I can’t believe I’m the only person who gets to take advantage of. But I’m not quite alone today. There’s a silver-haired lady, I guess in her fifties, already doing laps near the waterline. As I’m setting myself up, taking inexorably long to arrange water bottle and keys in some last ditch procrastination, I notice just how fast this...
Jan 14, 2014 8:00 am
How do you feel? Not just right now, but generally: okay, fine, grumpy, bored, frustrated, stressed, anxious, depressed? Or is the majority of your time spent feeling great, content, happy, joyful?
How we feel colours what and how we see everything around us. Our emotions determine our outlook and how we respond to our world. We could have all the success, love, money and fame we could imagine, but if we feel sad and lonely, we wouldn’t...
Jan 7, 2014 8:00 am
I’ve just returned from two weeks in the UK, pootling around the countryside. There was the usual awkward scene at the car rental place. A last minute booking for the busiest part of the holiday, I was given one of those adorable, ‘bijoux’ European three-door models that I had to fold myself up to get into, with a manual transmission, of course.
I know how to drive stick shift … technically. It says so on my license. I have done it on...
Dec 31, 2013 8:00 am
I’ve a friend who tells me, whenever I express doubts about getting my column in on time, that I should just recycle the old articles I’ve written. “Pull out the Greatest Hits” he says, “like the Eagles did”. It turns out that The Eagles ‘Their Greatest Hits 1971-1975’ was the best-selling album in the 20th Century.
Although I personally see it as a challenge to find something new to share each week, revisiting former topics is...
Dec 24, 2013 8:00 am
Steps to Success
Who hasn’t found themselves faced with a tricky question: just unwrapped an awful gift from Great-Aunt So-and-So: “Don’t you love it my dear?”
A hungover colleague, “how was my karaoke at the Christmas party last night?” Or the BFF in her new outfit, “does my bum look big in this?”
Little white lies, what’s the harm really? They only bend the truth a bit, usually about things we don’t consider that...
Dec 17, 2013 8:00 am
The countdown is on and the Island is buzzing with frenzied shoppers trying to find the perfect gift (or one that will do), get in the Turkey and trimmings, put together just the right party outfit and get work tied up in time for the holidays …
It’s a fast paced world at the best of times. ‘Busy’ barely begins to describe most of our lives, juggling jobs, family, friends, hobbies, socialising, finances … the list goes on. Multi-tasking...
Dec 10, 2013 8:00 am
By Julia Pitt Steps to Success: Unsung Heroes
One of life’s daily pleasures is walking my dog in the Botanical Gardens each morning. Even those times I feel reluctant or the weather isn’t conducive, by the end of a loop or two, I feel brighter, invigorated and balanced. It’s a fabulous way to start the day. Twenty minutes on a treadmill doesn’t quite compare. There is something restorative about being surrounded by that natural beauty,...
Nov 26, 2013 8:00 am
I recently had an interaction that took me right back to high-school. Not discussing mixed tapes and bubble writing, but under attack from an internal voice, like a horse racing commentator, giving me a play by play critique of everything I was saying, doing and appearing wrong, and what a doofus I was making of myself.
I know better. I’ve worked on this for twenty years, but every now and then it still gets the better of me. A rabbit...
Nov 19, 2013 8:00 am
Steps to Success
Question: What do you call the Med Student that graduates at the bottom of the class?
Sorting through some papers on my perpetually untidy desk recently, I unearthed something written almost a year ago. It was my list of aims and intentions for 2013. It seems that time has flown extraordinarily quickly since penning it and I can hardly believe it is almost time to repeat the exercise for next...
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