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  • Mar 24, 2014 8:00 am

    It seems my new girlfriend doesn’t want to be seen in public with me

    Dear Carla,

    I have been dating my girlfriend for about three months. We have a good relationship and really good chemistry but whenever I ask her to go somewhere with me she always has an excuse. It’s starting to bother me and make me wonder if she’s seeing someone else behind my back. I keep asking her why she never wants to do anything with me outside of our homes and she just brushes me off and says I’m overreacting. But what makes...

  • Mar 10, 2014 8:00 am

    Help! My girlfriend drinks too much

    Dear Carla,

    I am in a relationship with a woman who I love dearly. She’s good to me and we have a good time together but I have one problem with her. When she drinks she doesn’t know when to stop and once she’s drunk she becomes a handful. She’s rude and nasty to me and says insulting things. But once she sobers up I remind her of some of the things she says and she’s apologetic. Half of the time she doesn’t even remember saying the...

  • Feb 24, 2014 8:00 am

    Stuck in a sexless marriage and tempted to cheat

    Dear Carla: My parents divorced when I was young and both were remarried by the time I was ten. While I have had a good relationship with my stepfather, it has not been the same with my dad’s wife. She has never been nice to me, and I feel she only tolerates me. She has never made an effort to really get to know me, despite my dad trying to make things happen. This situation has not bothered me except I’m about to have a baby in two months,...

  • Jan 27, 2014 8:00 am

    My teenage daughter has ‘dumb broad syndrome’, what can I do?

    Dear Carla,

    I am so frustrated. How do you motivate a teenager to strive for excellence? I have two kids. Both are very active with their extra curricular activities and they both do well in school. Both have been diagnosed with ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) so it can be somewhat of a challenge, however both are very intelligent and when they focus do really well. My preteen does really well with school work as well as...

  • My advice, let sleeping dogs lie
    Jan 13, 2014 8:00 am

    My advice, let sleeping dogs lie

    Dear Carla: A man and woman have known each other for many years. Man is a recovering addict, says he’s been clean for a few years. They have started dating. She feels like she should “investigate”, do a “social inquiry report” so to say, on him to get feedback on whether or not he is truly not using anymore ... so the question: is this appropriate? Or is she opening up a can of worms because you know how it goes everyone will have a story...

  • Dec 30, 2013 8:00 am

    What’s the real deal with my former husband’s wife and our child?

    Dear Carla,

    I am the best super nice ex ever; after 10 years of unnecessary child-like drama and slander, the wife finally is attempting to be nice allowing our 11-year-old son to sleep over however, the childless wicked stepmother emerges to our son right in front of his father. He protects and defends our son removing him from the situation, even bringing him home if needed. I continue to be my nice self. Is there anything more I can...

  • I think my BFF’s bloke is cheating
    Dec 24, 2013 8:00 am

    I think my BFF’s bloke is cheating

    Dear Carla: I saw my best friend’s boyfriend out dancing with another woman. It wasn’t your typical dance. It was very intimate. He was kissing her neck and then at the end of the night they left together. This is the same female that he was cheating with a few months ago and he denied it. Should I tell her? – I KNOW WHAT I SAW

    Dear I Know: If it was my friend, I would tell her but not everyone would agree with me. Some may feel you are...

  • Dec 2, 2013 8:00 am

    I love him, but not his sleeping around

    Dear Carla,

    I have been in a relationship for five years. We have a beautiful child together. He is a good provider and good father to our child but he has a major problem that I can’t stand. He sleeps around with other women. And the worst part is he is not secretive about it. While I may not know who the women are personally, he tells me when he has a friend. He has also made it clear that he loves me but he does not believe that a...

  • Nov 26, 2013 8:00 am

    I want absent father out of my life for good

    Dear Carla: I need feedback as I have no more energy to mentally contain this; My dad was amiss my whole life. I never wanted anything but to know what he looked like especially when my grandmother always told me I have his eyes.

    In my teen years I pushed to meet him and was met a mixture of harsh resistance and mixed messages. He tried to lead me to believe he had wanted to be there but was continuously encountering “situations” that...

  • Nov 4, 2013 8:00 am

    Cheaters never consider consequences

    Carla Confidential

    Dear Carla: What is a reasonable time for a 16 year old to be home on weekends? Whether going to a party or not? I had a discussion with a 16 and they seem to think 1am is acceptable because the law says they have to be off road by then. But parent thinks 10-11pm. I cant remember what my curfew was. Please help. — WHEN’S THE RIGHT TIME?

    Dear Right Time: None of my children are this old yet but I can draw off my...

  • Oct 28, 2013 8:00 am

    I want to do it with my friend’s sexy father

    Dear Carla,

    One of my closest friends has a very sexy father. Although we have never been in any sort of intimate relationship me and her father are extremely attracted to each other. He has asked me to consider sleeping with him and I want to, but I know my friend would not approve. I mentioned it to her as a joke once and she got upset so I dropped the subject. But the truth is I want to. I told him that although I want to I do not...

  • Oct 7, 2013 8:00 am

    No sex please, I’m not ready

    Dear Carla: Life is getting harder and harder for me to survive so I really want to move to England. I don’t want to go to live off the system; I want to go to school and better myself and create better opportunities for my daughter. I have been in a relationship with a man for two years. We have a good thing but I may have to let it go. He doesn’t want to come with me because he has children here. I respect that but told him that I still plan...

  • Sep 24, 2013 8:00 am

    Our cheap friend is killing vibe on nights out

    Dear Carla: My girlfriend has a small child. The father of the child is involved in the child’s life although he and my girlfriend do not always get along. She and I are very happy together but I have a problem where she and her ex are involved. She told me that he wants to get back together for the sake of their child. She says that she does not want that.

  • Jul 22, 2013 8:00 am

    One job is not enough as a single mum

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  • Jul 15, 2013 8:00 am

    There are some worthless mothers out there too

    Dear Carla: My husband and I have been married for a few years and we have a child together. He has two children from a previous marriage. My in-laws, who I am not very close with, but do not have a negative relationship, sent an invite to their annual family reunion via social media. This year, I noticed that they invited my husband’s ex, who they remain close with. She has also remarried. I am not a jealous person, and I have...

  • Jul 8, 2013 8:00 am

    I’m 14 and I’m thinking about having sex

    Dear Carla, I am 14 years old and I think that I want to have sex. I have a boyfriend who I get to see on the weekends. We kiss and stuff but have never done it. I want to tell my mama but I am scared that she will beat me because she has told me to wait until I am at least 21. I don’t want to get pregnant and I am too young to go to clinic. I am thinking about asking my aunty to take me but my mama would be mad if she found out. What...

  • Life is too short to stay in a dead-end situation
    Jul 1, 2013 12:00 pm

    Life is too short to stay in a dead-end situation

    Dear Carla: I have a co-worker who is gross. She leaves half-eaten food on her desk, hardly grooms herself and always looks a hot mess. She often invites me to join her for lunch and while I love her personality I would not be caught dead in public with her. I don't want to hurt her feelings. How do I tell her that she needs to improve her cleanliness? — Grossed Out

  • Jun 24, 2013 8:00 am

    Break ups, stalkers, and cheats

    Dear Carla: I am in a relationship with someone who I really adore. She is all of the things that I want in a woman but there is one thing about her that bothers me. She is very insecure. She always wants to know who I talked to during the day, if I speak to a female she demands to know where I know her from, she checks my Facebook profile to see who likes my pictures. It is really turning me off. I try to tell her that she has nothing to...

  • Our ‘shepherds’ should judge not lest they be judged
    Jun 3, 2013 8:00 am

    Our ‘shepherds’ should judge not lest they be judged

    Dear Carla: This is definitely one for your column. I would really like some feedback on this.

  • May 27, 2013 8:00 am

    Got a problem? Ask Carla This week: A distraught father asks if he’s a bad dad

    Dear Carla
    I am so frustrated! I have a son with my ex-wife and I pay for everything. In addition to paying $100 child support per week, he is on my insurance.
    I buy all his clothes, pay for of his extra-curricular activities, food and everything in between and yet his mother is demanding through the courts that I pay an additional $300 per week.

  • Love triangles are a dangerous thing
    May 20, 2013 8:00 am

    Love triangles are a dangerous thing

    Dear Carla: I pay child support to my ex for our three children. I pay what the courts ordered, give extra if children need it, and never complain. Am I wrong to question their mother when I see her with new clothes, shoes etc all the time? Especially since she is continuously cryin’ broke??? NOT A FOOL

  • This week: Should I use money from child’s father to pay household bills?
  • Got a problem? Maybe Carla can help
    Apr 22, 2013 1:19 pm

    Got a problem? Maybe Carla can help

    Dear Carla: I teach primary school aged children and while I don’t really need advice, I feel I needed to share the following so people can get an inside glimpse of some of the things I have to deal with in the classroom.
    The assignment one morning was for each student to write five engaging sentences about their weekend; begin each sentence a new way.


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