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  • My husband wants me to pay half the bills
    Aug 9, 2017 8:00 am

    My husband wants me to pay half the bills

    Dear Dr. Nekia,

    I work part-time and stay at home taking care of the house and the children when I am not working, but my husband wants me to still pay half of the bills.

    I thought it best to look into home schooling our children and...

  • Am I too trusting of my husband?
    Aug 7, 2017 8:00 am

    Am I too trusting of my husband?

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I do not always know where my husband is. Sometimes he comes home from work on time and sometimes he comes home a bit later. On the weekends he has been known to just get up and get dressed and walk out the door without a...

  • Manhood is not defined by control over a woman
    Jul 19, 2017 8:00 am

    Manhood is not defined by control over a woman

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I saw a video on social media that said scientists have found women can carry the DNA from every man they sleep with. Also, that DNA can mix with the DNA of her current partner if she gets pregnant. This means that his child...

  • How do I keep my work and professional life seperate?
    Jul 17, 2017 8:00 am

    How do I keep my work and professional life seperate?

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    My question may be a bit out of the norm but what I wanted to know is how do you keep your professional life separate from your love life?

    I am a psychologist and at times I find it difficult not to bring work home...

  • I am no longer attracted to my spouse
    Jul 12, 2017 8:00 am

    I am no longer attracted to my spouse

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I am no longer attracted to my husband. I try to be, but Iím just not. I think that he is beginning to notice it because I avoid any of his attempts at intimacy. Is it normal to just wake up one day and not find your spouse...

  • Me and my boyfriend are inseparable
    Jul 10, 2017 8:00 am

    Me and my boyfriend are inseparable

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    My man and I spend all our free time together. His friends tease him, and my friends are getting angry with me, saying that they are tired of him tagging along everywhere. I enjoy his company and he enjoys mine. I do not like...

  • Do women place too much importance on their looks?
    Jul 4, 2017 8:00 am

    Do women place too much importance on their looks?

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    My question is a pretty simple one. Do you believe that the average woman places too much of her self-worth on her ability to attract men? Most would deny it, but Iíve watched women transform themselves to follow celebrities...

  • Allow new woman to have a say
    Jul 3, 2017 8:00 am

    Allow new woman to have a say

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I am dating this woman and, ever since things got serious between us, she keeps telling me what I am doing wrong as a father. It is annoying as hell. I tell her that she is overstepping her bounds and that my son is mine, not...

  • Married life has been a disappointment
    Jun 26, 2017 8:00 am

    Married life has been a disappointment

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I got married recently, three months after my mom passed. We then moved into our new place, away from my dad and sister who needed me the most during our very difficult time.

    I thought marriage would make dealing with...

  • Surviving your midlife crisis
    Jun 14, 2017 8:00 am

    Surviving your midlife crisis

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    Is midlife crisis a real thing? For example, when someone wants to explore new relationships when nothing is wrong with the marriage they have. Does it have something to do with looking for validation from others outside the...

  • Trapped in a world of sexual make-believe
    Jun 7, 2017 8:00 am

    Trapped in a world of sexual make-believe

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    My husband and I have always enjoyed a pretty healthy sex life but last year things began to change. He became less interested in sex and blamed it on stress and being tired from work. I accepted this but I began to question...

  • When is the best time for sex?
    Jun 5, 2017 8:00 am

    When is the best time for sex?

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I am one of those women involved with an unavailable man. Well, he is available to me but he is in a relationship with someone else. I read your reasons for why women settle for sharing a man, but I did not...

  • Itís hard to trust or respect women
    May 31, 2017 8:00 am

    Itís hard to trust or respect women

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    Why does it seem like so many single women are so content being side pieces? It is like they are proud to be ďthe other womanĒ.

    This makes it very difficult to trust or respect women and, even though I may want to...

  • Iím pregnant, but donít know who the dad is
    May 29, 2017 8:00 am

    Iím pregnant, but donít know who the dad is

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    Iím pregnant and I do not know who the father is. I have been seeing someone regularly, and another guy on and off for the past year. I like them both, but things seem to be progressing with one more than it is with the...

  • My manís too small to satisfy me
    May 22, 2017 8:00 am

    My manís too small to satisfy me

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I am dating a man whoís penis is just too small for me. He is a good guy and he treats me very well, but sexually I am not satisfied. I really do not want to have to break things off with him because of this one flaw.

  • I want sex more than my man
    May 17, 2017 8:00 am

    I want sex more than my man

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    My sex drive is way bigger than my manís. Sometimes I feel like I am going crazy because it is never enough for me. We have a pretty sexually active life, but I am usually left feeling like I want more. It is sort of like...

  • Should I stay with man who isnít ready for marriage?
    May 15, 2017 8:00 am

    Should I stay with man who isnít ready for marriage?

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I truly believe that marriage is the most scared love two people can have together ó and I thought I had found the man I would marry some day. We have a good relationship, work hard and have stable jobs, and are both faithful...

  • Can polar opposites work?
    May 10, 2017 8:00 am

    Can polar opposites work?

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    My man is completely the opposite of me. I mean completely. At first we laughed about it but now we are beginning to get on one anotherís nerves. We still enjoy spending time together and care about one another, but...

  • Tempted to try dating someone outside my race
    May 8, 2017 8:00 am

    Tempted to try dating someone outside my race

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I know that it is common to date someone outside of your race, and I hear a lot of black men do it here for security and financial reasons. I am a black woman who is not really attracted to white men; however, lately, I have...

  • My manís mother heard us having sex
    Apr 26, 2017 8:00 am

    My manís mother heard us having sex

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I am so embarrassed. My manís mother overheard us having sex! I know that for some people this would not be a big deal, but for me it is. He is taking it pretty well, but I do not know how I am going to...

  • Sick of girlfriend comparing us to others
    Apr 24, 2017 8:00 am

    Sick of girlfriend comparing us to others

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    My girl is always comparing our situation to her girlfriendsí situations. Iím sick of her always giving me grief about what her friends have or what their dudes do and donít do. No man wants to be compared to another guy, and...

  • I found out new man has a newborn
    Apr 19, 2017 8:00 am

    I found out new man has a newborn

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I met someone who I really like. He just found out that he has a newborn baby girl, and I know that this may be shocking and exciting news to him, but to me itís more like a deal breaker. I just do not want to share him, and...

  • My guy has a baby mama from hell
    Apr 17, 2017 8:00 am

    My guy has a baby mama from hell

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    The guy I am seeing has a baby mama from hell. As long as her sonís father is single she doesnít want him and talks bad about him, but as soon as it looks like another woman is entering the picture, she tries to get him back.

  • Hurt by wifeís constant messaging
    Apr 12, 2017 8:00 am

    Hurt by wifeís constant messaging

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    My wife is constantly talking online to a man and she says there is no harm in doing it. It is a co-worker she had an emotional affair with, which I forgave. She spends little quality time with our three children, but spends...

  • My depressed boyfriend is hiding behind a smile
    Apr 10, 2017 8:00 am

    My depressed boyfriend is hiding behind a smile

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    My boyfriend is really depressed. He hides it from everyone else but when we are alone I can see that he is not happy. He has told me thereís a lot going on in his head, but assures me that it doesnít have anything to do with...

  • Husband found me with another woman
    Mar 29, 2017 8:00 am

    Husband found me with another woman

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    My husband walked in on me and another woman.

    She is someone who is a mutual friend of ours and we have been spending a lot of time together.

    We do lunch, go shopping, and have a girlsí night...

  • I love him but how do I tell him?
    Mar 27, 2017 8:00 am

    I love him but how do I tell him?

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I have been secretly loving this man for years. He doesnít know it. We used to be friends but drifted apart. Now he is back in my life and I donít know what to do about it. I thought that I was over him but I am beginning to...

  • My wife doesnít want to have sex
    Mar 22, 2017 8:00 am

    My wife doesnít want to have sex

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    My wife and I are having big problems in the bedroom. We are a very religious, conservative couple who believe that what happens in our marriage bed should be kept private, but we have been having so much of a problem that we...

  • She likes house warm, I like it cool
    Mar 20, 2017 8:00 am

    She likes house warm, I like it cool

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    After reading your column last week on the couple trying to deal with snoring, I thought that I would write in with a similar problem. It may seem trivial but my wife and I fight all the time about the temperature in the...

  • Why is this loser calling out other losers?
    Mar 15, 2017 8:00 am

    Why is this loser calling out other losers?

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I have a male friend who really is just my friend and we recently had a discussion about men. His mom and sisters are all single and he says that they keep choosing losers.

    What I find interesting is that he is...

  • I love a woman who doesn’t love me
    Mar 13, 2017 8:00 am

    I love a woman who doesn’t love me

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I’m in love with a woman that just doesn’t love me and I don’t know how to get past it. I’ve loved her since for ever, and I have never really been able to be with someone else 100 per cent. She...

  • Embarrassed to still fantasise about my ex
    Mar 1, 2017 8:00 am

    Embarrassed to still fantasise about my ex

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I am almost too embarrassed to admit this, but I have to talk to somebody about it ó I still fantasise about my ex.

    It wouldnít be so bad, I guess, except for I do it while having sex with my new...

  • Wife’s values are affecting our sex life
    Feb 27, 2017 8:00 am

    Wife’s values are affecting our sex life

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I’ve been cheating on my wife. My wife was raised in a Christian home and she carries a lot of those beliefs and values with her today. It affects our sex life. She thinks that certain acts are dirty or a sin. I...

  • ĎIím dating a work in progressí
    Feb 22, 2017 8:00 am

    ĎIím dating a work in progressí

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I am dating a man who I know will be a good husband in the future, but who is still a work-in- progress. I love him and I see the little progress that he is making, but if I am honest, I am not really happy right now.

  • My wife says cheating can strengthen marriage
    Feb 20, 2017 8:00 am

    My wife says cheating can strengthen marriage

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    My wife had an affair but says that she ended it to work on our marriage. I am angry with her and really just think that we should get a divorce. I thought that she would say something about how I should forgive her since she...

  • How do I move on from bad relationship?
    Feb 15, 2017 8:00 am

    How do I move on from bad relationship?

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I just broke up with my man and I am having a hard time with it. I find it hard to move on because I am constantly thinking about how he treated me and ended the relationship. He did cheat and lie a lot, and I know that I...

  • Can I break free without being the bad guy?
    Feb 13, 2017 8:00 am

    Can I break free without being the bad guy?

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I started seeing this girl three years ago. Everything was cool and then I lost my job. I couldnít find another one soon enough to keep me afloat so she offered to let me move in with her and her son. I took her up on the...

  • I feel my boyfriend is not there for me
    Feb 1, 2017 8:00 am

    I feel my boyfriend is not there for me

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    Iím dating someone who I care about but they require a lot of attention. At first I didnít mind being there for him, helping him out and giving advice, but I feel like everything has to always be about him...

  • How do I tell him to stop surprise visits?
    Jan 25, 2017 8:00 am

    How do I tell him to stop surprise visits?

    Dear Dr. Nekia,

    Iím dating someone who recently started to do something that I do not like. He stops by for unannounced visits. We never discussed if it was allowed or not, so really I canít get mad at him, but I just feel like some...

  • My boyfriend is attracted to men and women
    Jan 23, 2017 8:00 am

    My boyfriend is attracted to men and women

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    My boyfriend admitted to me that he thinks that he may be bisexual. He says he has never been with a man, but that he finds both men and women attractive. I do not know how to handle this situation. One...

  • Why do my relationships keep failing?
    Jan 11, 2017 8:00 am

    Why do my relationships keep failing?

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    It looks like all of my relationships end the same way. I donít know if it is something that I am doing wrong or if I keep getting involved with the wrong kind of men. I understand that relationships...

  • Struggling to show my man affection
    Jan 9, 2017 8:00 am

    Struggling to show my man affection

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    Iíve been with my man going on six years now, and I am having issues with showing him affection and that I love and appreciate him. In the beginning it was all about the sex for me. I never knew we would end up being...

  • Iím ready to give up on love and just be content
    Jan 4, 2017 8:00 am

    Iím ready to give up on love and just be content

    Nekia Walker

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    Iím tired of being alone. I just canít seem to find what I am looking for in a partner. I donít ask for much, just someone who is honest, loyal and a hard worker. Someone who I am attracted to, who I share...

  • My man wonít marry me
    Dec 23, 2016 8:00 am

    My man wonít marry me

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I believe I suffer from depression. I used to be married and was very happy till my ex ended our marriage. I didnít think I would ever heal from the heartbreak, but I have and I have met someone new and...

  • My girl is changing with party season
    Dec 19, 2016 8:00 am

    My girl is changing with party season

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    Itís Christmas season and there are a lot of parties going on. It is like my girl has changed into a completely different person. She never really goes anywhere and says this year her sister is taking her out with her. I told...

  • My girlfriend prefers her dog to me!
    Dec 16, 2016 8:00 am

    My girlfriend prefers her dog to me!

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    My man is very close with his daughterís mom. I donít mind that they are friends and I donít want to be jealous but I just donít feel comfortable with certain things.

    She is single and they go to lunch together; she...

  • Let your lover disclose past at own pace
    Dec 5, 2016 8:00 am

    Let your lover disclose past at own pace

    Dear Dr. Nekia,

    Iím dating someone who does not like to talk about their past. I am interested in things because I want to get to know her better but she says that the past doesnít matter. I am open with her about my past relationships...

  • ĎWe live in a society of lazy loversí
    Nov 28, 2016 8:00 am

    ĎWe live in a society of lazy loversí

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    After reading your column, I mentioned the possibility of exploring conscious sex with my husband but he is not open to it. We have been discussing things to spice up the bedroom lately but he would rather do something...

  • My manís friend is making advances to me
    Nov 21, 2016 8:00 am

    My manís friend is making advances to me

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    Should I tell my man that his close friend is coming on to me? Iíve been in a situation before where I told and it backfired on me. I was made out to be a liar. I really do not want to go through all of that again...

  • What is conscious sex therapy?
    Nov 14, 2016 8:00 am

    What is conscious sex therapy?

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I know that you offer one-on-one and private counselling sessions on relationships, marriages, and sex therapy, but I did not know that you offered something called conscious sex therapy. What exactly is it? How does...

  • Men lose respect for women they sleep with
    Oct 31, 2016 8:00 am

    Men lose respect for women they sleep with

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I was having a conversation with one of my male friends about dating. I have left a long-term relationship behind and am ready to begin dating again. He was trying to give me some advice on how to choose decent men and how I...

  • Why do I struggle with my sexual desires?
    Oct 17, 2016 8:00 am

    Why do I struggle with my sexual desires?

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I consider myself to be a rather spiritual person, but I find that I struggle with sexual desires. I know that it is wrong to have sex outside of marriage but I just canít help but to want to. And the more I try not to even...

  • Many know very little about the big ĎOí
    Oct 10, 2016 8:00 am

    Many know very little about the big ĎOí

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I know that this question may seem a bit odd, but is it possible for someone to have an orgasm in their rectum by having anal sex? Iíve heard of this before but I just donít understand how it could be...

  • Cheating husbandís mistress is obsessed
    Oct 3, 2016 8:00 am

    Cheating husbandís mistress is obsessed

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I found out last year that my husband had an affair with a foreign worker here on the island. I am upset by this of course, but what upsets me even more is that I would have never known if it were not for her basically...

  • ĎSex is all we guys really wantí
    Sep 26, 2016 8:00 am

    ĎSex is all we guys really wantí

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    Last week you wrote that you donít know why men think women cannot have sex with no strings attached. As a man, I can tell you that this is true. Some of you say that you can, and it starts out that way, but you all get...

  • Want to settle but my woman gives me attitude
    Sep 19, 2016 8:00 am

    Want to settle but my woman gives me attitude

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    Iíve been out there playing the field for a few years but I have met somebody that I feel is worth settling down with. I really do care about her even though we are not together but she has some messed up ways towards me that...

  • Unborn babyís dad questions paternity
    Sep 12, 2016 8:00 am

    Unborn babyís dad questions paternity

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    I have been in a relationship with someone for six months now and I am pregnant. This is my first pregnancy and even though we didnít plan for this to happen, I was excited about the news.

    Things...

  • Trying to conceive is damaging our marriage
    Aug 29, 2016 8:00 am

    Trying to conceive is damaging our marriage

    Dear Dr Nekia,

    My wife and I have been trying to conceive for the past two years with no success. We did get pregnant one time but my wife sadly miscarried. I know that these things happen and that they can be beyond our control, but I...

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