Have a written game plan to achieve dreams

  • Joint decisions: have a written game plan for debt reduction

    Joint decisions: have a written game plan for debt reduction


Dear Dave,

My wife is so charged up after reading your books, and now she is determined to get us out of debt. I know this is good idea, but I just donít have the passion for it she does. There are also some things I really donít want to give up. Do you have some suggestions for getting motivated?

Ken

Dear Ken,

Goals and dreams always have a better chance of coming true if you have a written game plan. Sit down with your wife at the beginning of each month, and help her do a written budget. Give every dollar a name on paper before you spend anything.

Contrary to popular belief, doing a budget is not torture. Itís also not just a math exercise. Itís an opportunity for you both to have input on what you want to accomplish in life and how to make it happen. After two people are married they become ďas oneĒ. And thatís how decisions should be made in a marriage ó facing all the problems, dreams, and fears together.

Once you sit down and do a budget, I think youíll see where you can cut back and make things happen that you thought were impossible before. You may have to give up a few things for a little while, but when you see how quickly you can get ahead by making your money behave, Iíve got a feeling youíll get excited about the possibilities.

óDave

Dear Dave,

Weíve followed your advice and put our kids on commissions instead of allowances. The problem is our 8-year-old. He never buys anything, and he seems to be very frugal by nature. Do you have any advice for teaching him it is okay to spend money sometimes?

Stephen

Dear Stephen,

Youíre absolutely right for wanting to teach him wise spending habits. Each of us has the personality of being either a saver or a spender. As parents, we should help our kids grow in areas where they have weaknesses, and find ways to enhance their strengths.

Give him praise for being such a good saver, but gently encourage him to spend a little, too. Spending is one of the rewards of work and disciplined saving. You might urge him to pick out something he really wants, and help him make a plan to save enough money to buy that item. Once he has enough money for the purchase, turn it into a celebration of reaching that goal.

There are three things you can do with money ó spend it, save it, and give it to others. Focusing too much, or too little, on any of these is not financially or spiritually healthy.

óDave

Dave Ramsey is CEO of Ramsey Solutions. He has authored seven bestselling books, including The Total Money Makeover. The Dave Ramsey Show is heard by more than 16 million listeners each week on 600 radio stations and multiple digital platforms. Follow Dave on the web at daveramsey.com and on Twitter at @DaveRamsey

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Published Jul 20, 2019 at 8:00 am (Updated Jul 20, 2019 at 12:15 am)

Have a written game plan to achieve dreams

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