Honouring Connie and all victims of sexual abuse

  • In memory: Keri Ebright carried a photograph of Connie Furtado when she ran the Bermuda Triangle Challenge during Bermuda Marathon Weekend last year. She is back this year and plans to do so again

    In memory: Keri Ebright carried a photograph of Connie Furtado when she ran the Bermuda Triangle Challenge during Bermuda Marathon Weekend last year. She is back this year and plans to do so again


Dear Sir,

It was new year’s night 1978. I was sitting at the police station. I don’t know how long it all took. The whole day felt frozen in time, like it all lasted for ever. But at the same time, it had ended. I was there to report him. I promised I wouldn’t. I told him I’d never tell, and for that reason I am alive.

Walking to a friend’s house at midday, I was raped on an isolated section of the Railway Trail. He threatened to kill me. He told me if he was caught, it was my word against his.

I have no concept of time for how long the assault lasted; it seemed for ever. After a while, he just let me go.

Although I feared him, I had to tell. He was finally apprehended, tried and convicted for another crime.

A few months after my attack, I graduated from high school and went off to college. I started a new life and buried much of what happened inside me. Last year, for the first time in almost 40 years, I returned to Bermuda, to the island I called home for seven years.

I needed to return ... to face my fears. Most of all, I wanted to honour Connie Furtado, a young schoolgirl who was raped and murdered just a few weeks after my attack.

I recall the horror of that dark time and wonder, “Why her and not me? Why was she taken and I spared?”

I signed up for the Bermuda Triangle Challenge and ran in Connie’s memory. I carried her picture with me on the Front Street Mile on the Friday, the 10K on the Saturday and the full marathon on the Sunday.

When I finally crossed the finish line, I felt more closure and healing. I believe in my heart that I have forgiven my attacker. I now want to use my story to help others who have suffered this pain that wounds deeply both body and soul.

In a few days, I will again wear Connie’s picture for the Bermuda Triangle Challenge 2019. When I complete the races, I will send my finishing medals to her family.

I invite others to join me.

Maybe you have been through the pain of sexual assault and rape, or someone you love has.

Maybe you knew Connie or were one of the students at Paget Primary that lived in fear afterwards.

Maybe you have been abused and feel deeply wounded.

Whatever the cause, it is important for us to come together and support each other. We can’t take each other’s pain, but we can share the burden together.

Please contact me if you would like to meet, to walk or run any part of the race with me, or meet up at the finish.

Bermuda Marathon Weekend is from January 18 to 20. Together we can not only survive, but “Soar”, and find some healing and peace.

For more information contact me on the Facebook page Survivors Of Abuse and Rape or via the Centre Against Abuse.

KERI EBRIGHT

Bethesda, Maryland

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Published Jan 17, 2019 at 8:00 am (Updated Jan 17, 2019 at 7:52 am)

Honouring Connie and all victims of sexual abuse

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