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Fighting right is key to long and happy marriage

Knowing when to say sorry, learning how to fight right, and making memories are the keys to a successful marriage.

And Allan and Mildred Hunt should know, they’ve been together for 41-years.

Founders of Heart to Heart Marriage Mentoring Ministries the couple place great emphasis on honouring and respecting each other, and also insist that waiting for Valentine’s Day to show your significant other how much you love them is a mistake.

“We have put a lot of emphasis on marriage and family and I think we have reaped the benefits,” said Mr Hunt. “For instance we teach a class how to fight right, disagree and how to make your relationship benefit from disagreement.”

Admitting that you make mistakes and not being afraid to apologise is just as important.

“We respect and honour each other,” said Mrs Hunt. “Apologising is so very important. None of us are perfect, we don’t do it right all the time, but you must be willing to say ‘I’m sorry’.

“Another secret of our strong relationship is that we keep planning. Every year there was something we were going to do the following year, we continually set goals. We pooled our resources to do something together as a family.”

“Listen to each other and always seek knowledge I always call it ASK because no one person in a relationship knows it all. To get that balance each of us must have an opportunity to put something into the pot, the relationship.”

The Hunts introduced International Marriage Week to Bermuda last week which included a Gala Banquet on Friday at the Hamilton Princess when married couples were honoured.

“Marriage is a gift from God and you should give it the highest value,” Mrs Hunt believes. “It is important to have each other as a friend.”

The couple celebrated their 40th anniversary by having special rings made in Bermuda and then blessed while on vacation in Switzerland.

“My biggest thing is to see her giggle,” said Mr Hunt. “I get the biggest kick out of making her giggle. A man’s job is to fulfill his wife. If he fulfills her she will complete him …without question.”

Allan Hunt and Mildred Hunt: Still going strong after 41 years of marriage

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Published February 13, 2012 at 7:00 am (Updated February 12, 2012 at 9:02 pm)

Fighting right is key to long and happy marriage

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