'Tie Me To The Bedpost', 'Who's Ya Daddy' and 'Something Sweet' sound like the titles of the latest trashy romance novels, but actually they are love potions in Cheryl Mayfield Brown's erotic cookbook, 'Cooking to Keep Him'.

Mrs. Brown and her husband Bill, were on the island recently as part of the Bridal Spectacular held at the Fairmont Southampton Princess and Coco Reef Resort.

"I am here to stir it up," said Mrs. Brown who was dressed in her signature red checked apron, suggestively short skirt and high heels. "I will be talking about keeping passion in the relationship. It is all about maintaining interest. Men are very different creatures from us."

Mrs. Brown runs a wedding consultancy business, Twice Is Nice Bridal Creations aimed at couples who have been married before.

"Some of our clientele have been married two or three times and they want some guarantee that their relationship is going to work," said Mrs. Brown. "But you can't offer them a guarantee, because every relationship is different.

"People just want to be happy. They don't like a lot of confusion. They just want to know what to do differently in this relationship. I was married once before. People were asking me what I did differently with Bill. I said we weren't doing a whole heck of a lot. I just like to cook and I like to eat."

When her clients wanted to know exactly what it was she was cooking, she decided to write a cookbook, 'Cooking to Keep Him'. It was self-published in 2004. In 2005 it won the Los Angeles Black Book Expo award for best cookbook.

She wrote the book during layovers as a flight attendant. The recipes are relatively simple, and recipe chapters have names like 'Hot Licks', 'Love Dem Balls' (foods that are round) and Nuts and Nibbles, among other things.

The age old question of course is if you're cooking to keep him, do you have to do the dishes as well?

"Of course not," said Mrs. Brown. "You don't have to do everything. It is all about presentation and how you make your man feel. If you treat a man like a king, you can get him to do anything.

"Men like to have their egos stroked. Not that we don't, but men are from Mars and women are from Venus. There are differences."

In case you are insulted by the gender bias, don't be. Mrs. Brown and her husband are currently working on a second book, 'Cooking to Keep Her'.

"I want to interject that it has to be reciprocal," said Mr. Brown. "As much as she loves you and does for you, you have to do for her. It is not just the fact that she is making you her king, you are making her your queen."

Mrs. Brown met her husband as a flight attendant. He came on the plane to clean it, and she noticed him right away. Unfortunately, because he was married at the time and going through a divorce, he didn't notice her at all.

"I take my vows very seriously," Mr. Brown said.

The second time they met, he came on to clean the plane again. She went up to him, and said, suggestively, "hi, remember me?"

"I honestly didn't remember her," said Mr. Brown. "I said do I know you? She said, 'yes, I am Mrs. Bill Brown'. I thought she was crazy."

Nevertheless, the two struck up a friendship, fuelled by numerous home cooked meals from Mrs. Brown (then Cheryl Mayfield).

"Bill is from Cincinnati and I am from the south up in Georgia," said Mrs. Brown. "He wasn't use to a lot of soul food. He put on 75 pounds. My background is fried chicken, collard greens, macaroni and cheese and creamed potatoes with creamed cheese, sour cream and a stick of butter and all the unhealthy stuff. It is not good for you, but it is good you.

We try not to eat like that all the time because as you get older you become health conscious. As you get older things start to fall apart. He has lost the weight now."

Mr. Brown said his wife is 'the best' cook, and she didn't make him say that.

"I do want to say one thing, I run everything in our household," said Mr. Brown. "I run the dishwasher, the lawnmower, the vacuum cleaner, and the ironing board. I run all those things. I do wear the pants in the family, until I come home and she tells me to take them off and I assume the proper position."

Mr. Brown said all joking aside, he adores his wife, and he called the relationship of five years, heaven-sent.

"I asked God to send me someone whose heart and spirit were in the right place," said Mr. Brown. "I said I didn't care what she looked like, just send me the heart and spirit and I would take it from there. But as you can see he blessed me doubly. So I have beauty and heart and spirit. So I have a total package."

Despite this, Mrs. Brown said they were married on a fluke.

"We dated and lived together for a long time and we didn't have any intent on being married," said Mrs. Brown. "We didn't want to go through the pain of a divorce again. You are afraid when you have been through a divorce. You are afraid of loving again.

"When I met Bill I was looking for the bottom to fall out. He was such a gentleman from day one. I kept thinking, he can't keep this up. Then one year went by, and I thought surely, he can't continue to keep this up. He did."

A light went off in her head one day, when a friend told her she needed to "stop playing house".

"She said if anything happened to either of us, I couldn't identify his body because I wasn't a family member," said Mrs. Brown. "Even though we lived together, legally we weren't a family.

"Something just jolted inside me. I called him up at work. I said, 'what you doing?' He said: 'Nothing'. I said, 'we're getting married'. He said, 'oh, okay'."

She said along the way they have learned to keep passion in their relationship and excitement in their cuisine (even if she doesn't cook with three sticks of butter anymore).

"Men like spontaneity," she said. "Maybe you could just step out of a cake today."

She said trouble often starts in a marriage as soon as the honeymoon is over.

"First of all the wedding is such a financial impact on a newly wed couple," she said. "You are trying to recoup from that financially, and then you are trying to recoup mentally because you had to make decisions on this one time event.

"This is why at Twice Is Nice we focus on the marriage verses the wedding, because the wedding is actually secondary. You don't want to go into a relationship with a lot of baggage. When couples get married it is a glow, but there is sometimes also a dark cloud.

"You may get use to seeing each other and being physical with each other for the first couple of months, so you have to do something to keep passion there. Be it jumping out of a cake or whatever. You have to do something that is going to create some excitement.

"We all love to be excited and pampered. You have to keep that bond. It is hard work. That fairytale does not exist. In the fairytale they don't work hard. They just live happily ever after."

Mrs. Brown said she is currently attending film school, and would like to do a documentary about the way that women cook.

"I want to interview a thousand women and ask them what they eat, and how they cook it," said Mrs. Brown. "Food is where decisions are made.

"People have dinner to entice someone to close a deal, to introduce your parents to your fianc?e, we have food for bar mitzvahs. Food is the way of life."

For information about the book go to www.cookingtokeephim.com .