Dear Annie: I am a 15-year-old female, and I’m addicted to porn. Not so much the porn in pictures, but porn in stories. I know I shouldn’t be reading this kind of stuff, but I can’t seem to stop. Sure, for a month or two I can go without, but then I get back into the habit. I read these stories on the Internet.Everyone thinks I am such a good girl. I don’t want to spoil the image or disappoint my parents. I know I should tell them, so they can help me overcome this addiction, but I’m afraid I’ll lose their trust (and my Internet access).

Things are starting to get worse because lately, I’ve been looking at pictures and want someone to touch me. The desire is getting stronger every day.

Do you have any suggestions about how to tell my parents that their good daughter may not be as good as they think? I feel so guilty and untrustworthy. — Bad Good GirlDear BG<$>You don’t sound addicted. You sound like a 15-year-old girl whose hormones are on overdrive. You are having perfectly normal sexual feelings that are new and exciting, and you are looking for an outlet.

The problem is, because it’s so easy to find images and stories on the Internet, it’s harder to control these urges and learn self-discipline.Your parents will not be angry to know that you are having sexual feelings, and it’s always best if you can talk to them. You also can discuss this with your school counsellor or a trusted adult relative or friend.

Meanwhile, next time you are on the computer, check out one of our favourite websites at kidshealth.org. You’ll learn a lot about your body and your feelings, and it will keep you away from the porn.Dear Ann<$>“Outlaws in Iowa” said her children were being snubbed by her mother-in-law. That letter could have been written by my daughter-in-law.Maybe she should ask herself how well-behaved her children are. Our grandchildren shove their way through the front door and run yelling through our home. They whine, tattle, argue, cry and beg.

They snoop through drawers, take cushions off the sofa, leave their clothes everywhere and jump on the beds. Things are borrowed without asking, then forgotten or lost. They eat like pigs and spill food at every meal. By the time they leave, I have a splitting headache.

My son and daughter-in-law are oblivious to the commotion and become defensive when I mention it. Loud, unruly children are not welcome, even if they are grandchildren. Maybe Grandma is a mean-spirited old crab, but maybe she has her reasons. — Another Grandma With FavouritesDear Grma: <$>We know it’s hard to be with grandchildren who are unruly, but that’s no excuse to indulge some of the kids with time and gifts, while ignoring the others. If you want the grandkids to behave better in your house, insist on rules. If you can’t enforce them, arrange to see the children elsewhere. Don’t punish the grandchildren because their parents never taught them manners. YOU teach them.Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, long-time editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailbox[AT]comcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, PO Box 118190, Chicago, Illinois 60611.