TWELVE RULES FOR RAISING SELF-RELIANT CHILDREN 1. Begin at infancy to give things that he/she needs. Do not give the child all the latest fashions, jewellery, vacations, etc. In this way, the child will not grow up to believe that the world owes him/her a living.

2. When the child picks up bad words, do not laugh at the child. Correct the child and encourage the child to use appropriate language.

3. Begin at infancy to provide the child with spiritual training. Do not wait until he/she is 21, and then let the child decide for him/her self.

4. Use the word "`wrong''. It will not develop a guilt complex. This will condition the child to abide by the rules of society. It will assist in preventing the child being arrested for dealing with drugs, stealing a car, or sexual promiscuity. It will let the child know that there are consequences for breaking rules.

5. Do not pick up everything the child leaves lying around. Do Not become a servant to your child. This will assist your child in developing independence, organisation and accepting responsibility.

6. Do not allow the child read any printed matter he/she can get his/her hands on or watch any TV/Internet/Video program he/she can get his/her eyes on.

Let the child feast his/her mind on positive, appropriate information.

7. In the home, do not quarrel in the presence of your child. If it is important for the child to be aware of the family situation then have a civil family meeting. Providing information to the child in this manner may assist him/her in making adjustments should the family encounter difficulties in the future.

8. Do not give the child all the spending money he/she wants. Allow the child to earn his/her own money and teach the child how to save it. This should give the child a realistic view of the world.

9. Do not satisfy the child's every craving for food, drink and comfort. Do not allow every sensual desire to be gratified. Denial at times may develop creativity, tolerance and the ability to adjust quickly to new situations presented.

10. Do not take the child's part against neighbours, teachers, Policemen or other authority futures. Do Not express your displeasure for these authority figures in the presence of the child. They are not prejudiced against your child. Listen attentively to both sides of the story and reserve judgment until the situation is understood.

11. If you use appropriate parenting skills it would be instilled in the child that there are consequences to his/her behaviour. If the child gets into real trouble, you will not have to apologise for yourself by saying, "I never could do anything with him/her.'' You will not have to accept the blame when the child has to be referred to Child and Family Services for possible placement in an alternative home. You will have to exercise "Tough Love''.

12. When your child becomes a well-adjusted adult, he/she will be in total control, he/she would not have to prepare to spend life on the negative side of the law. He/she an prepare for a good life. You can be proud of your productive citizen.

TWELVE RULES FOR RAISING DELINQUENT CHILDREN 1. Begin with infancy to give the child everything he/she wants. Give the child all the latest fashions, jewellery, vacations, etc. In this way, the child will grow up to believe that the world owes him/her a living.

2. When the child picks up bad words, laugh at the child. This will make the child think that he/she is cute.

3. Never give the child any spiritual training. Wait until he/she is 21, and then let the child decide for him/herself.

4. Avoid use of the word "wrong''. It may develop a guilt complex. This will condition the child to believe, later, when he is arrested for dealing with drugs or stealing a car that society is against him/her and he/she is being persecuted.

5. Pick up everything the child leaves lying around. Do everything for the child so that he/she will be experienced in throwing all responsibility on others.

6. Let the child read any printed matter he/she can get his/her hands on and let the child watch any TV/Internet/Video programme he/she can get his/her eyes on. Let the child feast his/her mind on garbage.

7. In the home, quarrel frequently in the presence of your child. In this way, he/she will not be too shocked when the home is broken up later.

8. Give the child all the spending money he/she wants. Never let the child earn his/her own money or teach the child how to save it. Why should the child have things as tough as you had them? 9. Satisfy the child's every craving for food, drink and comfort. See that every sensual desire is gratified.

10. Take the child's part against neighbours, teachers, Policemen and other authority figures. Express your displeasure for these authority figures in the presence of the child.

11. When the child gets into real trouble, apologise for yourself by saying: "I never could do anything with him/her.'' Then, send them off to Child and Family Services so that an additional burden can be placed on the taxpayers for them to finance your child's placement at the Brangman Home, Observatory Cottage, or Sunshine League.

12. When your child becomes an adult and is totally out of control, prepare for him/her to spend life at Westgate Hotel, the Peoples' Farm or the Co-Ed Facility. Prepare for a life of grief.