Give and take the key to happy marriage
When Quinton Talbot spotted high school student Marjorie it was love at first sight. She had stepped off a bus and was heading to class at Prospect School for Girls.
He took one look at her and decided that she was the one he was going to spend his life with.
“I was ignoring him at first because he was going to work and I was going to school,” Mrs Talbot said. “He just continued to pursue me because he liked what he saw and made up his mind that he was going to marry me.”
Their first date was supposed to be at a Salvation Army fair that following Saturday, but Mr Talbot decided not to go until he first spoke with her parents.
The two dated for seven years until eventually, Mr Talbot went to his beloved's house to get permission from her father to marry her; they wed on January 28, 1954 at Allen Temple AME Church.
Today the couple celebrate their 59th anniversary. Mrs Talbot, 81, said she hoped to celebrate a day early by going to church and having lunch with family.
Her husband said he was “pleased and happy” that they had reached a new milestone in their relationship. The 87-year-old said when the Queen of England next handed out medals to the public, his wife deserved one for all the things she has done for him over the years.
Like any other married couple the Talbots have experienced the storms of life, but they have many common denominators that have glued them together their faith and commitment to raising their five children, six grandchildren and five great-grandchildren.
“We have had lots of hurdles and gone through a lot, but we have been able to overcome it,” Mrs Talbot said. “My faith has played a big part in our lives and longevity.
“I am a Christian and was brought up in a Christian home, as is my husband, and we stand on the promises in Philippians 4:13, 'I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me'.
“We are both still active people, I exercise a lot by walking and swimming and I belong to about five seniors' clubs and my husband is still working as a welder.”
Mr Talbot said it was his wife's commitment to both him and their family that he loved most about her. He told
The Royal Gazette: “It's been really beautiful the dedication she has shown as a sweetheart and then a mother and as a wife, right up until the present day.
“And it's not been easy because I have not been that easy to get along with, but we have been through the thick and thin together.”
Mrs Talbot said she has tried to teach her children that marriage isn't an easy road, but it's worth it in the end. “You have to give and take and give a lot more than you take,” she advised.
“Marriage is a very sacred thing and [in the early days of our marriage] if you had a fight you just couldn't go home to [your] mother, who [likely] had children of her own. You had to stay where you were and work it out.”
She continued: “Marriage is a two-fold thing and it's not easy today, but you just have to be really consistent in your married life. Yes, sometimes you get kind of despondent and feel like giving up, but what would it all be then?”
The long time couple have lived in their Somerset home since they were newlyweds and even had their wedding reception at the locale.
In the early phases on their relationship Mr Talbot worked on the US base, where he stayed for 47 years. Mrs Talbot was a housekeeper at a private estate and looked after tourists who visited there.
To this day they still have a lot in common. Both enjoy dancing and spending time entertaining friends and family.
Mrs Talbot has noticed that couples today have more challenges in terms of just trying to make ends meet. She said if she could give any advice to young couples, particularly those about to get married, it would be for wives to just love their husbands.
She said: “Yes your husbands are not always going to be the same, they may not have a job [or go through other challenges], but sometimes we have to be understanding.
“When they come home we have to [love them] and make sure they have a nice day. You don't jump on them as soon as they come in the door. Be a little lenient with your husband.”