Hi Carla, I'm a 42-year-old male that has been out of a relationship for five years now. It's been great being single but it's also gets lonely. Since which I have had one relationship with this one girl which I thought if I gave my all heart and soul things would be different. We lived together for a while had a great time. All of a sudden because of her children's father making it hard for her to see her children she left. She also said I was too nice, which I do not understand. I gave her the space that she needed. We are still friends but now she is seeing someone else. Please help me understand ... what is too nice? Have we lost our values when it comes to relationships? Does dating, romance and courting exist anymore? Although though I love being intimate, as I've gotten older I just love the stimulation of conversation. They say nice guys finish last. I don't believe that. They say your time will come. I don't believe that either. Nowadays it seems like women just want to have sex and move on. Have we become that disconnected as the opposite sex? Have morals taken a back seat when it comes to relationships? Have women become that numb from being hurt in previous relationships that when a good man does everything to treat her like a queen and is literally standing in front of them they still don't notice ... and then called "too nice"?! FrustratedDear Frustrated, There are two questions here that I feel you are asking. Firstly, what makes a man "too nice". There are two ways too look at that statement. I'm going to give away a tad bit of female code and tell you a secret. Women are not always honest. I would almost bet my bottom dollar that there is something about you that she did not like but was too afraid to tell you and risk hurting your feelings. Placing you in the 'nice' zone was an easy way out. By placing you there, she's actually trying to be 'nice'. If you really want to know the truth, I would suggest you ask her to keep it real with you, but be prepared to hear something that you may not like. As far as women not wanting to be treated well, hate to break it to you but you have your fellow friends to thank for that. There's nothing worse when a woman loves a man and he does not handle that love with care (and yes, women can do it too). Nine times out of ten, she will become gun shy and lock away her heart. Which then makes it very difficult for 'nice' guys like you. She's out there ... she'll find you!Dear Carla, I am a single mother of four. I lost my mother to complications of drug addiction when I was a teenager. I have been around people all my life that have smoked weed or dealt drugs which really did not bother me. Now my teen daughter (19) is smoking weed and I am not happy about it. I cannot say that definitively I believe marijuana is a gateway drug but I do feel very strongly about her smoking. I have told her how I feel about it and yet she continues to smoke. She no longer lives in my house (I did not put her out) but I am very heartbroken. It's a hard subject to talk about because people take smoking weed so lightly now. Am I overreacting or should I just be thankful its not something stronger. Signed a worried momDear Mom, A drug is a drug is a drug. Considering how you lost your mother I can understand your heightened concern. But she is 19 and she does not live at home so what can you do? If she is financially self-sufficient and seems to be doing okay for herself there really isn't much that you can say to prevent her from smoking. And you hit it on the head; weed smoking is not considered a big deal in the grand scheme of things so it only makes your battle harder. For some reason many believe if it's not crack or heroin it's all right. Do you know anyone who is not a relative who can speak with her. The last thing a teen wants to hear is something that sounds like a lecture. Let's hope that this is just a phase she's going through.Dear Carla, My best friend is sleeping with a married man ... I don't judge her but recently the married man's wife who may or may not know his mistress is my friend, approached me with business and I am considering networking with her as it benefits my business. Am I betraying my best friend by networking with the wife of the man she is sleeping with? TornDear Torn, Are you sleeping with the man too? I really don't see the conflict. If you are going to deal with this lady solely for business purposes then I really don't see anything wrong. Your friend is wrong in so many levels. Firstly she's having an affair with a married man. Secondly she's selfish for expecting you to give up a potential opportunity because she's doing dirt. But I have to ask, how did you end up becoming a potential business colleague of the woman's? Was it by design? As long as you don't betray your friend's trust then I say do what you have to do to grow your business. Your friend needs to get over herself.