The pain never goes away, but for at least two families raising money in the name of their deceased loved ones provides some solace.

Ten years ago Penny Sampson heard the ambulances going to her son Ewan, who was thought to have just been pulling out from the Shell gas station nearby when his bike stand got caught on the ground and he collided with a van on Middle Road, Southampton.

She still finds it hard to hear emergency vehicles and hearing about the bike accidents makes her relive the day she lost her 17-year-old son.

Mrs. Sampson said: "It makes me angry (seeing people drive recklessly) and seeing people sitting on the side of the roads doing nothing.

"Why did my son go when they are doing nothing? Why do they not realise how precious their lives are? It seems like they are flirting with death.

"The thing is if they die it never goes away for the families and it never gets easier. I get a lump in my chest even now talking about it.

"It never goes away when you lose a child. You just put one foot in front of the other and try to do your best."

Crystal Aming, who lost her husband Alan Oliver, 41, last year when he appeared to lose control of his bike and hit a pole on North Shore Road, Devonshire says she also struggles with the sudden loss and finds it difficult to see the reckless driving.

She said: "The overall memory of him is that he was a loving and loveable guy who just has time for everybody.

"I miss him every day but I know he would want me to keep living my life to the best and have the memories.

"The rules are there for a reason and there's nothing to stop you from going out. Speeding it's not worth it. It's not worth it for the cost if it goes really wrong.

"You cannot get that person back. Since his accident I am very conscious of those not obeying the laws of the road."

Both of these women and their families have found one way of coping with the pain is to try and give back to the community in the name of their loved ones. After Ewan died, Mrs. Sampson and husband Tyrone vaguely suggested a scholarship in memory of their son and when Richard Butterfield called it took shape and the Ewan Sampson Scholarship Trust has grown to almost half a million dollars.

Each year the group of hard-working volunteers and employees with the scholarship help fund a Bermudian students' IT education up to $12,500.

IT because Ewan was an avid IT student who would build his own computers and had a thriving business before he died.

She said: "One student was not going to be able to go back to school in September. He won a scholarship and now he is qualified and is back in Bermuda.

"So it's made quite a difference. But it's difficult. On the one hand it opens the door but on the other hand his name was respected enough people did come and help."

Like Mrs. Sampson, Mrs. Aming decided to help children in the name of her husband, Mr. Oliver who was an avid rugby and golf player.

So in conjunction with Youth Net, a school based mentoring programme, for whom Mrs. Aming is a mentor, a foundation was set-up and a golf tournament was held on the anniversary of his death.

It raised enough money to help send students away on sports camps for at least the first year. Mrs. Aming said it was just a starting point for the fund.

She said: "We were raising money for youth with sporting ambitions who wouldn't be able to pursue them. He loved the fact that I was a mentor to a little boy. It's something positive in his memory."

Anyone who would like to contact Mrs. Aming for more information or to donate can contact her at: crystala@logic.bm.

And Mrs. Sampson said they are trying to expand the outreach programme, which helps them go into the schools and explain to students the importance of IT. The scholarship trust is always looking for more help with funds and anyone who wishes to help should contact the couple on: 238-1239 or visit the website: www.esst.bm.