A mother reeling from the death of her son has called instant messengers ‘disgraceful’ and ‘heartless’ for sharing pictures of him hanging.St George’s resident Belmida Hunt had just been notified of her son’s death when the pictures went viral on Bermuda’s social network.Arthur Botelho, also known as ‘Mangie’, took his own life two nights after returning to King Edward VII Memorial Hospital for relief of excruciating pain.According to his mother, he was sent home with medication last Thursday, and told to return for further examination last Friday if the pain persisted.He returned the next day only to end up at home again with no relief.In an exclusive interview, Ms Hunt said that on top of her family’s grief there is the added angst of having his picture circulating around the Island.As the family waits for the official release of his body, all she wants to know is the cause of her son’s pain over the past four years following extensive treatment both here and abroad.Ms Hunt had strong words for instant messengers. “First of all, for anyone who was there to take a photograph, I think it’s a disgrace because of my grand daughter — his daughter — to see a photograph of her dead father being sent around made her go ballistic,” she said.“By the time the police got there it was confrontational. There was a bit of friction at the scene because she wanted to go to her father.“For the people who took pictures, if they had any decency about themselves they wouldn’t have done it — it’s very heartless.“I’ve seen the picture they’re sending around. I was very offended.”Her son’s plight began at 4.30am on March 13, 2009 when he woke up with no feeling or ability to move from the waist down. Doctors surmised he may have suffered a mini stroke that left him with a “trapped nerve on his vertebrae”.“He spent the last four years going through hell and all I want to know is what was really causing his pain,” said Ms Hunt.She recounted how family members were called to the scene of his death on property surrounding the Coed Facility.“He always told me he had picked a spot for when he was ready to do it. He tried to commit suicide about two years ago and it was only by the grace of God that I was there to stop it from happening.”Asked if her son left a note to say what he intended to do she broke down in tears and said she couldn’t bear to go in his room.Mr Botelho reached out to his only daughter, Kimberly Botelho before he took his own life. But when she got the phone text messages it was all ready too late.In hindsight Ms Hunt is convinced her son planned to take his life. On Saturday, as she headed off to work, he told her that he would try to persevere.“I was gone for no more than two hours when I called and got voicemail. I figured he was sleeping. I was calling to tell him I was on my way home and not to give up. I watched my son go thin, I watched the bags under his eyes.“I heard him cry like a baby in excruciating pain at night, I heard him fall, we went through it all and the doctors just kept prescribing more drugs. It got so bad he was taking at least eight pills at a time on the prescription they gave him to help him sleep to escape the pain.“When they came to my house to tell me I thought it must have been somebody else. They took me to the scene where his body was found and by that time they had cut him down.“The police officer told me she was only going to show me his face because the noose was still around his neck.”She broke down in tears as she recounted how she looked at her dead son with “his eyes still open”.She broke down in tears again as she told how the officer pulled the sheet back and she saw her son lying dead.“Right now I have an issue with everybody, all the doctors because it’s been four years and seven months to be exact. And all my son wanted to know was why all these doctors couldn’t tell him what’s wrong with him or make the pain go away,” she said.“The only salvation I have is knowing he’s not suffering anymore. But I don’t have what he has and I’m suffering because his daughter has lost her father.“I don’t want to live where I live anymore — the memories are too much there and everything I look at is him everywhere. We were a team.”Ms Hunt also disclosed that there will be no funeral as per her son’s request. “We talked about it over the years, and he was very clear that he wants his body to be cremated.“The ashes will be spread out in Israel and I will make sure that happens. We’ll have a memorial service after he’s cremated.”At the very least she said she wants to know what caused her son’s pain over the past four years.“I need to know why, two days before my son died, he was dealing with doctors who knew nothing of his case history. I’ve talked to the Health Minister about this.“But I really want people to know that I think photographing him hanging and sending it all around Bermuda is just plain insensitive.”Mr Botelho is survived by his mother, his daughter Kimberly and two siblings, a brother and a sister.“My youngest son Carlton is grappling with this, we all are.“Arthur kept telling him that he couldn’t live with the pain anymore and that he kept encouraging him to keep the faith,” she said.She is grappling with trust issues regarding King Edward VII Memorial Hospital and said there were people who refuse to deal with the hospital.“I want to know why was there was ongoing pain? Why was it allowed to continue to so long to the point that the pain because unbearable? And I want answers because my son went through hell.”