When is the right time to buy a house?
When is the right time to buy a house when someone is following your Baby Steps plan?
That's a good question. Let's start by going over the first few Baby Steps.
Baby Step 1 is saving $1,000 for a beginner emergency fund. Baby Step 2 is paying off all consumer debt, from smallest to largest, using the debt snowball. Baby Step 3 is where you increase your emergency fund to the point where you have three to six months of expenses set aside.
Once you've done all that you can begin saving for a home. I'll call it Baby Step 3b. For folks looking to buy a house, I advise saving enough money for a down payment of at least 20 per cent.
I don't beat people up over mortgage debt, but I do advise them to get a 15-year, fixed-rate loan, where the payments are no more than 25 per cent of their monthly take-home pay.
Doing it this way may take a little more time, and delay your dream of becoming a homeowner a bit, but buying a house when you're broke is the quickest way I know to turn something that should be a blessing into a burden!
My father died recently. He walked out of my life 25 years ago when I was a teenager, and he never wanted anything to do with me after that. His brothers, who have already paid for some of his final expenses, asked if I wanted to pay to have his body cremated. They didn't ask for money, they just offered it as a chance to be part of things. I'm in good shape financially, and I could easily afford the cost. Morally, I wonder if I have a responsibility to help with things. Do you feel I'm obligated in any way?
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sorry, too, about what happened with your father. I can't imagine the mixed emotions you must have in your heart.
When someone asks me a question like this, I try to put myself in their shoes. Under the circumstances, I don't think you have any obligation whatsoever — morally or legally — to help pay for anything. If you want to help, and you can afford to do so, then follow your heart. At the same time, I don't think you should lose one wink of sleep over this if you decide not to contribute.
Twenty-five years is long, long time. I don't know your dad, and I have no clue about his situation or state of mind back then and in the time since. I can't imagine doing that to a child of any age, though.
Do what you feel in your heart is best. But in my opinion, there's no obligation here. God bless you, Julie.
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