Dear Dave,

I recently got engaged. My fiancee and I live separately, and we don’t own any mutual property, but we are thinking about practising putting our money together on the same budget.

We’re not going to literally combine our money yet, but we thought it would be a good idea to get some experience doing this together before we’re married. What do you think?

— Brock

Dear Brock,

I think that’s a great idea! But, after you’ve practised and pretended that your money is combined, you should not go pay any of her bills and she should not pay any of yours until you two are officially husband and wife.

Now, once you’re married, all the bills — and any of the debt — will become our bills and our debt. The same is true of our income, our problems and our solutions.

Get what I’m saying? You’ll be combining everything at that point, and having practised that, you’ll be better in a better place.

I will warn you against one thing when you two are practising your budget. Don’t live in a fantasy world. Be very honest, and very realistic about everything — even if facing the truth is uncomfortable.

And listen to each other. One of the biggest lessons when doing a budget with your spouse, or future spouse, is learning how to let the other person have input and win sometimes.

Learning to back off a little, and letting the other person have a say, is crucial. That’s a great thing to practise before marriage.

Make sure you’re having a discussion, a give-and-take when you’re practising your budget, because it’ll be a part of the real thing once you’re married.

You know, doing a budget together is good practice for learning how to give and take in all the other areas of married life, as well. You’ll be sitting down and agreeing on where every dollar goes before the month begins. And that sets a good foundation for you to start envisioning and agreeing on your goals and dreams.

So, practising is good for now. And pretending to pay all the bills on paper is a great idea. But remember, you pay your own bills — and she pays hers — until you’re married.

Congratulations! And may God bless you both.

— Dave

• Dave Ramsey is an eight-times national bestselling author, personal finance expert and host of The Ramsey Show. He has appeared on Good Morning America, CBS This Morning, Today, Fox News, CNN, Fox Business and many more. Since 1992, Dave has helped people regain control of their money, build wealth, and enhance their lives. He also serves as CEO of Ramsey Solutions