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Each August, our family leaves for a remote island lost among the endless boreal forests and thousands of lakes in the Boundary Waters Canoe Area Wilderness of northern Minnesota. This enchanted island, with slender pine trees and rocky cliffs, is su...

Dear Dr Nekia, I do not know one woman whose man has not cheated or is not cheating. Do all men cheat? Why is it so hard for them to be faithful? Should we women just accept the fact that men cannot just be happy with one woman? Sincerely, Do All Me...

Sweet talk. When we want something, it’s easy to reach for the butter and spread it on thick. Often, we don’t actually ask for what we want. Instead, we pussyfoot around it, leaving hints and clues to what we’re after, hoping the other person will p...

Dear Dr Nekia, With all the talk of what is going on in our community, do you think that single mothers really are to blame? I hear so many negative things being said about single moms — who struggle to raise boys the best they know how — but are the...

In our society we are conditioned to believe that we can achieve things quickly, almost overnight, but real change takes a long time. It begins with small steps that become the journey of a lifetime. We repeat our bad habits over and over for years. ...

Dear Dr Nekia, The man I am dating is always stressed. Even when things seem to go right for him, he is unhappy. As you can imagine, this takes a toll on our relationship as he gets moody and doesn’t feel like doing anything much. I like to get out ...

In a conversation recently I was told I was being aggressive. “Emphatic” is the word I would have used, but in truth it was more a spat than a chat so, being caught up in the heat of the moment, perhaps I’m not the best judge. I’m a firm believer th...

Dear Dr Nekia, I am looking for a serious relationship and I slept with a potential someone on our second date. I have not done that before. Now I am full of guilt. I was wondering how to bring this up with the man — that I now want to take it slow, ...

Dear Dr Nekia, I do not always know where my husband is. Sometimes he comes home from work on time and sometimes he comes home a bit later. On the weekends he has been known to just get up and get dressed and walk out the door without a word of where...

Dear Dr Nekia, I have finally motivated myself to start working out. I go sometimes mornings and sometimes evenings for a brisk walk or run. The trouble is that I get unwanted attention. It is hot out so I wear breathable clothing that is not too hea...

Showers. Weather is an interesting study. One minute you receive a heavy shower and then the sun reappears and the water evaporates and you have a beautiful day! Let’s look at what happens in your own lives and businesses. The “rain showers” that p...

Dear Dr Nekia, My man and I spend all our free time together. His friends tease him, and my friends are getting angry with me, saying that they are tired of him tagging along everywhere. I enjoy his company and he enjoys mine. I do not like having to...