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Dear Dr. Nekia, My friends have been trying to set me up on dates with guys. I don’t mind dating but they are not happy that I have not found anyone to settle down with. I have met some nice guys, but most of them were just not ambitious or establish...

Once upon a time I had awful anxiety or rather, it had me. Worry and panic about God knows what became a running commentary in my brain, the backdrop to every single day. There would be a nanosecond, when I first woke up in the morning, when I would ...

Dear Dr Nekia, My husband walked in on me and another woman. She is someone who is a mutual friend of ours and we have been spending a lot of time together. We do lunch, go shopping, and have a girls’ night out quite often. I have known her for a f...

The fitness industry evolved over the last few years making healthy lifestyles more accessible. Yet somehow, the new standard for “healthy” managed to be less attainable. New fitness terms have found their way into our everyday lives including the i...

Preparation. The key to achieving success in anything we do is preparation. Not just a half-hearted attempt but a researched, planned, and thoughtful process. When we use a cautious and detailed planning approach we reduce many of the risks associat...

Dear Dr Nekia, I have been secretly loving this man for years. He doesn’t know it. We used to be friends but drifted apart. Now he is back in my life and I don’t know what to do about it. I thought that I was over him but I am beginning to get all of...

Early on a glorious morning in Miami, the soft sun shone on the beach. Loose branches of palm trees swayed in the wind and waves rhythmically crashed against the sand. I was standing barefoot in a circle of people, excited and fascinated to try somet...

Dear Dr Nekia, I have a male friend who really is just my friend and we recently had a discussion about men. His mom and sisters are all single and he says that they keep choosing losers. What I find interesting is that he is calling these men lose...

I struggle with criticism. Actually, that’s a lie. I struggle more with praise — accepting it that is and, perhaps, also giving it … which feels hard to admit. I recently attended a Bermuda Festival event. It was amazing, beautiful, moving and total...

Dear Dr Nekia, I’m in love with a woman that just doesn’t love me and I don’t know how to get past it. I’ve loved her since for ever, and I have never really been able to be with someone else 100 per cent. She doesn’t love me so I know that there is ...

Dear Dr Nekia, I really messed up with my girl and now she won’t talk to me. I have not been treating her as well as I should have and I guess she got fed up. I really don’t like being broken up and I want another chance. How can I get her to talk to...

Freesias. You know that spring is not far away when our landscape becomes dotted with areas of freesia plants creating carpets of colour and their wonderful scent fills the warming air. The beautiful flowers do not just come out of nowhere but devel...