Retreat to tackle female stress and promote happiness
When Aderonke Bademosi talks about pickleball, her face lights up.
She loves the competition, the camaraderie and the exercise.
“You really get to laugh on the court,” she said. “You get to interact with people that you probably would not have.”
Executive life coach Jessica Lightbourne loves musicals. Hades Town is one of her favourites.
Frances Marshall finds her happy place spending time with her great nieces and nephews.
“I love having lots of little young people around me,” she said. “I love the interaction.”
On Saturday, the three women will be holding the Space to Be women’s retreat to help other women find their joy, rest and relaxation in an increasingly chaotic world.
During the retreat women will play, rest and explore their creativity.
Ms Lightbourne said we were living in a volatile environment with lots of uncertainty.
“Change is always a constant but global change has intensified in recent years,” she said. “With artificial intelligence, social media, polarisation and conflict in the world, change is not going to slow down. All those things are adding to women’s stress.”
A study conducted by the American Psychological Association found that women are more likely then men to report having a great deal of stress. Almost half of all women they spoke with said their stress had increased over the past five years, compared with four in ten men.
The aim of Space to Be is to create a sanctuary where women can come together and enhance themselves holistically.
“We wanted to explore all aspects of who we are, physically, emotionally, intellectually — at the heart level,” Ms Bademosi said.
“Each woman will leave with practical tools for incorporating the lessons that we learn on the day,” she added.
Ms Bademosi is a former head of Government communications and now runs her own firm AB Wilson Consulting, creating learning workshops for large and small organisations.
She is also a photographer and runs a podcast called A B Wilson The Heart of the Matter.
“I have done a lot of work around fostering conversation, connection and community,” she said. “I host a gathering around a theme once a month online. I wanted to expand those 90-minute sessions to involve more women.”
In 2014, she held a one-day women’s workshop with Ms Marshall and two other ladies.
“Since then a lot of women have asked when we are doing another,” Ms Bademosi said.
She decided now was a good time to bring the concept back and the Space to Be retreat was born.
In the workshops and retreats she leads and on the podcast she hosts, she encourages people to think about what makes them joyful.
“I always say up front, I cannot answer that question for participants,” she said. “There is no magic letter or recipe that I give you but together we will uncover it.”
She loves connecting with people and providing spaces that are safe, physically and psychologically.
Ms Lightbourne is a seasoned life coach and founder of the Bermuda Coaching Network.
“I have worked with some exceptional men but right now I am really focusing on women,” she said. “I really want to support them to be seen, heard and valued.”
During the retreat she will discuss seven different types of rest.
“One type is sensory rest,” Ms Lightbourne explained. “This is when we put down our screens, turn off Netflix and quiet the information bombardment. That gives us time to think and reconnect with ourselves and each other.”
She will also talk about finding rest through creativity.
“It doesn’t matter what your medium of expression is,” she said. “It could be the way you style your clothes to singing in the shower. It just needs to be something that allows you to fully express who you are.”
During the retreat there will be some guided meditation and fun with clay to get people’s creative juices flowing.
Certified yoga therapist Ms Marshall will offer tools to help women quiet their minds, such as breathing exercises.
“I give them something to do in their silence,” she said. “We will work with different sound vibrations that you can repeat to yourself to help quiet that chatter in your mind.”
She is a trained breathing facilitator, helping people to inhale and exhale more deeply and effectively.
“Many people breathe through their mouth instead of their nose,” she said. “This has an impact on our nervous system. Some people are actually creating internal stress from the way they breathe.”
Ms Marshall said everyone came up against stress in their lives; it was just a question of how you deal with it.
This retreat is for women but the organisers have been approached by men who are also interested in reducing the stress in their lives. She has promised to look at opportunities to bring men and women together.
“Men and women do see the world differently, in our experience,” Ms Bademosi said. “We surveyed women a few months ago and asked them what they wanted. We designed this retreat based on the feedback that we got from their answers. Maybe for our next one, we will survey men and women to find out what they would want.”
The workshop will be capped at 30 ladies.
“We want everyone to have a special experience and feel a level of intimacy,” Ms Bademosi said.
Space to Be will be held on Saturday from 9am to 4.30pm at the Bermuda Underwater Exploration Institute in Pembroke. The cost is $300 per person.
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