Dear Annie: I have been dating my boyfriend, "Harry'', for almost six years, and we have been living together for the last two.

Harry is 49, somewhat controlling and loves to be catered to. The problem is, he goes on the Internet and watches porn. I never said too much about that, but he recently placed a profile on MySpace that reads, "Single, looking for a serious relationship''. I was upset. Harry says it's just a game and he wants to see how many women respond to him, adding, "Everyone is doing it''.

Harry has replied to a few women, telling them he'd love to meet them and party. When I get angry about this, he says I'm blowing things out of proportion, that he's just talking online and has no intention of meeting any of these women. He insists he loves only me and there is no one else for him.

I feel this behaviour is totally disrespectful to our relationship. Am I wrong or old-fashioned? ¿ Sincerely Confused

Dear Confused: Harry is doing quite a number on your head, making you feel guilty when he is the one who is looking to cheat. Partners who are truly and seriously committed do not list themselves as "single and looking'', nor do they respond to other women, wanting to party. Harry is checking out the competition, Honey, and the sooner you recognise it, the better. We don't think Harry is a safe bet for a faithful future. Either go for couples counseling or get out.

Dear Annie: I am having a disagreement with a gentleman of whom I am very fond. We have agreed to abide by your decision.

Recently, at a dance for seniors, my friend observed me saying goodbye to a male acquaintance by kissing him on the lips. Not once, but twice. These were not passionate kisses, just a brief pressing of the lips together. He says this was not the ladylike thing to do. He said I should have just kissed the man on the cheek or lightly hugged him. I think he is making too much of a meaningless gesture on my part. ¿ Sassy Sue

Dear Sue: Kissing someone on the mouth is a more intimate gesture than a peck on the cheek. In some families and cultures, everyone kisses on the lips, but if this is not the way you were raised, we agree with your gentleman friend. Twice on the lips indicates to others that your interest is more than friendly, whether that is your intent or not. If you want to avoid such a misconception, you might be more circumspect in the future.

Dear Annie: I don't agree with your response to "Depressed'', whose husband was lying about hiding porn. You said she was overreacting a bit, and although you said porn is a problem if it becomes an addiction, you didn't say that lying about porn is the real problem.

I used to be a casual observer of Internet porn. My wife knew this and it wasn't an issue. However, I soon became addicted. I would sometimes not get into bed until 3 or 4 a.m., and on my days off, I would spend the time downloading porn ¿ pictures, movies, anything. The women in those pictures became "mine''. I changed the settings on my computer so my wife couldn't find out. When a man starts to hide his porn and lie about it, he is addicted. And by that point, he is cheating because he's getting sexual gratification from it. She needs to seek counselling for both of them. ¿ Keith

Dear Keith: Men who look at porn are getting some form of sexual gratification from it, whether they are addicted or not, but we agree that hiding it is a bad sign.