Cynicism and mistrust have embedded themselves deep in our political and social infrastructure, despite expressions of optimism by those seeking to govern Bermuda for a fourth term.The magnificent strength of true democracy is that it provides every voice with an opportunity not only to be heard, but to question any matter, no matter how controversial, to find out what has transpired over the years concerning the people’s business. It is the only way to be better informed before casting a ballot to decide who should lead Bermuda. It is also a democratic right to seek answers.The populace, irrespective of race or political persuasion, needs to deeply reflect on our many problems and decide whether our country is moving forward, or drifting on a path of irreversible divisions, mainly through bitter political differences.It would be nothing short of tragic to maintain a course in the wrong direction. There are many sound thinking people who desire a Bermuda where those in authority display standards of transparency and accountability that are as clear as glass. That would leave very few doubts and questions over a wide range of issues.Bermuda can do better, but only if we are prepared to re-examine ourselves as a people, and confront harsh realities on a number of issues, including how a lack of old fashioned quality parenting is creating a breeding ground of maladjusted, dysfunctional children, adding to our educational and social problems.Dealing with this subject is painful because too often we have to admit to having dropped the ball quite some time ago when it comes to discipline, respect and values. What is even more painful is the apparent willingness to accept rudeness and disrespect as part of modern culture. Many families in Bermuda and perhaps throughout the world, find themselves locked in a craze of electronic gadgets. These days, young people will sit at the meal table, and rather than converse with their parents, they will be texting or tweeting, or whatever, without a thought that it is poor manners.Of course, if the parents are texting and tweeting at the same time, well what can you expect? While these devices have a positive role in modern lifestyles, they are also extremely damaging in the wrong hands. Many young people have fallen victims to sexual perpetrators through these communication devices. It is just another example of where good parenting is crucial.As Bermuda re-examines itself, there must be a willingness to understand that in order to move ahead from the shadows of our social history, a fresh open mind is required from all sections to avoid dragging negative attitudes from the past that hinder attempts to build a more unified future.Unfortunately political rhetoric which can become over heated in the lead up to a general election, is not helping to smooth the waters in order to get a clear reflection of where we really stand, during these tough economic times.The undecided voter will have to wade through a maze of political statements from all sides and carefully weigh out what seems rational, with a degree of common sense, before stepping into that booth to have his or her say with the stroke of a pen. Committed voters should do the same, but we all know that there are supporters on both sides who are cemented in their position no matter what happens or is said. That is a political reality we have to live with.Under the present circumstances with so many not knowing where to turn for a solution to joblessness, violent crime, economic woes, and other problems, many people are looking and hoping for something better.What seems certain is that they are not happy with the current situation, and they are tired of political rhetoric, promising a new direction with the same old tactics of avoiding truths that paint a different picture as to how so many on a small island could be so deeply troubled about our future.We need to do this re examination honestly and openly, if we ever hope to have transparency and accountability as a reality in dealing with our affairs. The decision rests with us.