Losing our good manners? Readers react
Yesterday this newspaper carried an editorial titled ‘Another World?’ in which we bemoaned a lack of manners, asking whether people would soon be saying “Bermuda used to be another world”. There was quite a response and below is some of the feedback we received.
Former PLP MP Dale Butler said: “What you are saying ... the change in the values of old Bermuda ... has impacted quality five star service that we gave without training in a school. We had these good values instilled in us at home and reinforced in schools and by the public who constantly talked about standards and pride.
“Many of us took great pride in saying ‘good morning’ and giving up our seats on the bus with a smile. Look at how people go to church, dinner or brunch in jeans with holes in them and sneakers. This all happened when "we" moved from collective pride to "I" can do what I want with my iPad, iPod etc. While there are pockets of us "ancient" people with respect and manners left, we are afraid to correct bad behaviour lest we be chastised and criticised ceaselessly in public and for lasting years on talk radio. So it will only get worse and we will just quietly go our way shaking our heads and asking whatever happened to standards.”
He signed himself ‘Dale Butler — a man who dresses when he goes on an aeroplane, to church or to a restaurant’.
One other person e-mailed to say: “The cell phone conversations are something that won't go away soon and will have to be accepted............however the teaching of a new set of "manners" should accompany the new technology. Same for the car radios; they are no longer the little am/fm radios, they are music systems with sound to fill a small stadium, even when within the vehicle the sound seems perfect. It's like driving a porch at 20mph; you don't get optimal performance at those speeds.
“The rest is just "manners" that have dried up on the vine because it was not nurtured.................except for the friendly good morning, good evening and good night...............your newspaper, sir, was instrumental in murdering that................with a merciless campaign.”
A comment on the story on www.royalgazette.com said: “If I might digress for just one second. I went into City Hall yesterday to purchase some parking vouchers and the two ladies at the desk were a breath of fresh air. I was greeted with a "good morning" a smile and "may I help you". Thank you for making my day. Now back to business.
“Drivers are my bugbear, running a red light even though they have plenty of time to stop, riders on pedal cycles doing what they do best riding three abreast knowing full well they are creating a nuisance, yes and a big SUV taking up two parking spaces. Pedestrians who take their merry old time on crosswalks — I know Bermudians are laid back but come on people! Loud music from where ever it emanates from — homes or cars, it makes no difference. And last but not least store clerks who are so busy texting or talking on their cell phones they ignore customers, if I owned the business they would be unemployed.”
One other person commented: “How about those driving at night with two sets of headlights all on high beam? Parking. You know, those big SUVs that park across two bays so no one will scratch the car?