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Single mum would go back to ‘unglamorous’ UK benefits

Some Bermuda mums say they would rather go to the UK and claim state benefits than stay in Bermuda.

Life on the UK’s dole is anything but glamorous — but it’s still much better than a single mother’s plight in Bermuda, according to one woman who spoke to The Royal Gazette yesterday.The mother said she has grown so frustrated in Bermuda she is considering giving up her professional job and starting afresh with her seven-year-old son in Britain.She said the son’s father has played almost no part in the youngster’s life, and she has lost hope he will ever pay up the thousands of dollars he owes in maintenance.And even though she has previously lived on unemployment benefit in the UK, and found it an unpleasant experience, she would be prepared to go through it again to create a better future for her son.She contacted this newspaper in response to lawyer Kai Musson’s comments that fathers are losing access to their children because their mothers are taking them to the UK in search of benefits.“We seriously need to look at how people are being treated here as to why they are leaving. It is not simply due to benefits being better in the UK,” said the woman, who spoke on condition of anonymity.“I am seriously contemplating this course of action for myself and my son.“I have lived on the dole before in the UK and it is not glamorous by any means. However, at least it is a fresh start away from the bias that we face in Bermuda.”She said the authorities have repeatedly allowed the boy’s father to not pay maintenance, even when she was out of work for five months and penniless.“There is something seriously wrong with a society that condones and enables deadbeat dads to remain deadbeats,” she said.“My son hasn’t seen his father in well over a year — his choice — and he refuses to pay child support and nothing gets done.“It is so frustrating I feel like throwing in the towel and leaving.”In yesterday’s Royal Gazette, Mr Musson spoke of a “national phenomenon” of women heading to the UK to take advantage of free council housing and state financial assistance.Many fathers have been left behind against their wishes, he said, causing a potentially devastating effect on the child’s upbringing.The woman we spoke to said she was on unemployment benefit in the UK about 20 years ago. She lived in a one-bedroom studio, sharing a bathroom and frequently having her electricity switched off.“It was very simple. I got an allowance for housing, electricity and food. But I would be prepared to do that again, because now I have a better resume, much more experience and could get a better paid job in the UK.“I just want to make sure my son has a good life.”Meanwhile, Eddie Tavares, co-founder of child advocacy group ChildWatch, described the situation outlined by Mr Musson as “parental alienation at its best.”Mr Tavares said: “The further the parent can keep the children away from the other parent, mostly fathers, the better. They can control and manipulate the children and the system, while collecting child support from the father and welfare at the same time, in some cases.”He said such in addition to the UK, children are being taken to the United States, Europe and Australia.“We have had some fathers who vigorously fought to bring their children back to Bermuda, and had to provide for professional counselling to assist with the traumas that were inflicted on the children,” he said.“We need to stamp this out as it is becoming a major problem. A few months ago, Illinios passed a law to prevent 'visitation interference' called the Steve Watkins Memorial Bill. Brazil passed an act to stop ‘Parental Alienation’ in 2010 for these reasons.”

Bermudian warns UK benefits system is likely to become more difficult

One UK-based Bermudian told The Royal Gazette people have abused the UK’s welfare system for decades — but said it could soon become more difficult to get money for nothing.“My opinion of the state benefits system here is that it encourages people to be incredibly lazy and irresponsible,” said the man, who asked not to be named.“These benefits are funded by the UK taxpayers, and the people paying taxes, me included, are sick and tired of supporting those on benefits (the dole) for their entire adult lives.“I have even met a Bermudian here who brought the lazy work ethic and mentality of Bermuda’s younger generation here to the UK.“I asked him if he is working and he replied, ‘No my wife is in school and I look after my two-year-old son and hang out chillin’ all day.’“The welfare system here has been abused for so many decades here that many adults on benefits have never worked a day in their adult lives. The more children you have the more money you get.“It is only recently that the Government here is trying to reverse the disturbing trend that the current benefits system has created. The system will inevitably implode because it was not designed to support perpetual welfare payments.“Anyone coming here for a free ride are coming a bit too late.”Meanwhile, another man said his own son was taken away from him by the child’s mother in worrying circumstances.“I took him to visit his mother the week leading up to 2007 Cup Match. I returned the Thursday of Cup Match to pick up my son and without notice his mother had left the Island without saying a word,” wrote the man.“I called everyone enquiring of their whereabouts, even the police who got back to me some days later confirming that they left the Island. The last time I saw my son he was only four years old; he goes nine this October. He will always be on my mind.”