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What not to say when someone gains weight

We all know people who have lost weight and gained it all back again – and then some.

Weight gain is not always about overindulging or insufficient movement. It can be caused by a variety of factors such as medication, inactivity because of an injury or various medical conditions.

Below are some remarks that may seem harmless but can truly negatively affect someone that has increased in size:

• Have you put on weight?

Believe it or not, it’s really not appropriate to ask someone about their body weight. Most likely, they are already aware that they are heavier than they desire – they have access to mirrors and scales just as we all do. Asking the question could cause conflict in your relationship and will definitely not have the affect you intended.

• It’s so easy to gain weight this time of year, don’t you think?

Although this may seem like a friendly comment, your friend may not see it like that and instead think you are attempting to commiserate, insinuating that they have put on a few pounds as well. Even if they did overindulge for a period, it doesn’t mean they want to chat about it.

• I heard the new super diet works so well. Have you tried it?

You make think your question is harmless but try not to offer opinions about any fitness-related programmes or diets unless asked. Even though your question may seem innocent to you, wait for the person to ask you for assistance. If you’ve had success with a particular plan – don’t preach. Try sharing your difficulties and strategies with your plan.

Encouragement can be an awesome tool to offer someone that didn’t realise that you were even available for support.

• Did you know that weight gain can lead to heart failure? (Or any other health issue)

Although studies have shown that being overweight can cause many health risks, good health is not always enough to motivate everyone to lose weight.

Some may feel that unless they start suffering ill effects from poor eating habits, their health is not worth worrying about.

So … with all that in mind, what should you say?

How much a person weighs is their business. If they bring up the topic and you feel that you can offer positive feedback, advice or support, go ahead and discuss it. However if they do not mention their weight, you don’t either.

It’s best to truly ignore body weight changes. Don’t feel the need to give insincere compliments. Just say, “It’s really good to see you today!“

Support your friends and B-Active For Life!

Betty Doyling is a certified fitness trainer and figure competitor with more than a decade of experience. Look for B. ActiveForLife on Facebook

If a friend gains weight, do not talk about it unless they address it, Betty Doyling advises

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Published November 25, 2020 at 8:00 am (Updated November 23, 2020 at 3:06 pm)

What not to say when someone gains weight

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