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Dear Carla: A girlfriend of mine was seeing this guy for four years, an expat. She had clues that he was married, he denied it. He was committed to her fully. Eventually he went back to his home country to live but instead of breaking contact, they c...

Last week’s column looked at the social masks we wear, the personas we often rely on to hide our true selves in fear that if people really saw who we were beneath, they might not approve or accept us, or we might face flat-out rejection. The desire t...

What did you go as this Halloween? I love a bit of dress-up myself, this year I ended up as a slightly frazzled mum trying to look like I’m keeping it together. My mask was a weary smile. We all have masks we wear, not just when we’re in costume. The...

I went to the lectures given by Alister McGrath at St Paul’s Anglican church in Paget over the weekend. He was up on top of a stage and behind a lectern in the church’s fellowship hall. He had a cold, and he had several bottles of water to help him o...

Carla Confidential Dear Carla: What is a reasonable time for a 16 year old to be home on weekends? Whether going to a party or not? I had a discussion with a 16 and they seem to think 1am is acceptable because the law says they have to be off road by...

Autumn: the season of colourful, falling leaves. Growing up in Bermuda, this was merely a concept from picture books. The Ponciana in our back yard shed it’s greenery midwinter, but hardly created the effect of rustling piles to jump and frolic in. ...

Dear Carla, One of my closest friends has a very sexy father. Although we have never been in any sort of intimate relationship me and her father are extremely attracted to each other. He has asked me to consider sleeping with him and I want to, but I...

Steps to Success ‘Mean Resting Face’, often referred to in a slightly more derogatory term (as coined by comedienne Taylor Orci), is an affliction I fear I suffer from. Whether due to permanently squinting in the sunshine, possibly needing glasses or...

Dear Carla, I am 35 and single and I want to have children. But I am still holding out for the ‘right one’ to come along. I am not a virgin by any stretch of the imagination but I refuse to have a child out of wedlock. My parents were not married whe...

I’m often asked where I get my ideas of what to write about each week … They just seem to present themselves. There will be a recurring thought or subject that keeps cropping up, among various clients, and in my own life and even things I read or cat...