Community activist group Imagine Bermuda has come up with a list of things families can do to ease stress over the holidays.

Compiled with the help of leaders in the faith community and mental health professionals the guide is designed to show that it is normal to get emotional over the holidays.

According to the guide, it is normal to experience feelings like self-doubt, anger and guilt around the holidays and these suggestions are designed to help alleviate those feelings.

• Take time for relaxation and personal 'quiet time' each day of the season ask for help to make this happen.

• There will be circumstances that may spark some anger in us; if and when this happens, count to 12 before making any response. During those 12 seconds consider your options for a constructive response to the circumstance.

• Remember our best gift to friends and family is our love. Children spell love T-I-M-E.

• Try hosting a 'family meeting' at some point, when young ones can raise any concerns.

• Watch or listen to one news report (per week) together, then take out time for any concerns raised. Be aware that too much exposure to the news can cause further trauma.

• Note that if children are drawing pictures/or make comments reflecting violent scenes, use these to have some calm reflection with them on their feelings about what they perceive.

• Ensure that children get outside for some time during the day in some playful physical activity.

• Look for some games that the whole family can enjoy some time over the festive period.

• Remember to look out for isolated family members or neighbours during this time.

• Attend a church of your choice during the season.

Imagine Bermuda encourages anyone who is concerned that their feelings are not "normal" to contact helping services. The Child and Adolescent help line is available from 8.45 a.m. to 5 p.m. on 239-6344 or outside those times on 236-3770